to want to trade in my DH for the man I saw today?

[ready2pop]

This morning I saw a lovely man pushing his DS (who looked about 4 months' old) in a pram. He was loaded down with a big grocery shop but also carrying coffee, croissants, newspapers AND flowers.

He was nothing special to look at but I now can't stop dreaming about how nice it would be to be married to a man like that!

My DS is 7 months old and the longest my DH has ever looked after him alone was for 2 hours at the end of which DS was covered in grass cuttings, had missed a nap and was generally pissed off .

AIBU to want to upgrade my DH for a more effective model?

have you considered he may have been in massive grovel mode? Forgotten the wife's birthday? Insulted her?

he probably spent all night at spearmint rhino

That's what DH said or that he was after a shag.

I can't decide if it is better to cling to the (probably misguided hope) hope that there are genuinely thoughtful kind men out there who are spontaneously treating their poor exhausted wives to breakfast in bed or to accept that they are probably all as useless about that sort of thing as my DH.

I would post something here, but I hate to gloat. [gloats of gloatingly into arms of incredible, considerate DH]

men aren't thoughful at all ime, they just don't think like that

Men like that do exist, there are a few round here.

Damn, I suspected as much - mine is just crap then .

Oh well at least I am now armed with further evidence to throw at him to see if I can guilt him into being a bit more help.

[gloats, but only a bit]

I bet he was taking some pressies home for his boyfriend.

Ready2Pop, you should have told your DH that a man that thoughtful would be likely to GET a shag.

Gloats from here too! DH got up in the night with dd2 (6mths) and looked after dd1 and 2 all day while I laid in bed until 1045 and did SFA all day except cook dinner
Also brought me breakfast in bed with a cuppa on Friday. I am very lucky!

"He was nothing special to look". Hmmm, that could be the problem if you were thinking of marrying him.

i agree he was probably grovelling!! my dh sometimes grumpy/tired selfish but yesterday let me have sleep in then looked after dd's while i went and had hair cut which he paid for and did all the cleaning and tidying up!!! said i looked tired and needed a rest for a change.Couldnt believe my look thought someone had switched him while i wasnt looking. Get yourself dolled up, babysitter and remind him what hes got!!!!

They do exist! My sis is a fan of Jaime Oliver...she came home one day to find the new Jaime At Home book on the kitchen side and windowsill herbs for her to use with cooking...

They don't have kids though...I'm guessing all romance would go when they do

What if he was a twat? Maybe the flowers were for his other woman. And his wife hates croissants so he'd bought them all for himself. And this was the first time in weeks he;d done the shopping.

Do men have to be twats/having an affair to do nice things?

Discuss...

My DH occasionally takes dds out to buy croissants on Sunday mornings. He can be a right twat.

My DH does htis for me pretty much every Sunday. He is not a knob. Or Twat.

Hmmm, a twat who gets you breakfast and flowers is still better than a twat who doesn't though.

My DH can be a bit unfeeling sometimes, but he does go for croissants every Sunday and occasionally brings me flowers. And not because he is grovelling, just to cheer me up. And he takes the kids out to give me a break.

Saying that, I do loads for him so I do expect him to treat me occasionally.

PussinJimmyWhoooos - that sounds like a BIG self-interested hint to your sis!

You can trade them in... where, tell me where, mine is 58, so can I please have 2x 24year olds

pmsl at ready2pops comment!
maybe he wasn't the perfect man though? maybe he is gay and he and his 'partner' had adopted?

My DH is one of the good guys...most of the time That said he can be a pedantic fecker who drives me mad.

But I am lucky.... and so is he [modest emoticon]