AIBU to be annoyed with my dh's comment about the dinner I cooked tonight?

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A couple of weeks ago I did this really lovely gulash for dinner one night, and it proved a bit hit with both dh and ds.
So today I did it again, and after eating in silence for a few mintues dh said "Well, it's not as good as last time" in a very dismissive sort of way.

I found this a bit annoying and rude - I have no problem with him not liking it, or indeed finding it not as good as last time, but I resent the way that he tells me eg he could have said "ooh, this is lovely, but I think it was even better last time" or similar.
I know I'm sounding very pathetic, but I really take pride in what I cook, I love doing it, so I do take comments like this a bit personally.

I told him that telling me "it's not as good as last time" was a bit depressing - and his comment was "don't ask and then you won't get depressed" which pissed me right off.

How would he feel if after sex I would turn to him and say "Well, it wasn't as good as last time"?!

me and my dp will always comment if it wasnt as nice no hurt or harm done as if it was better last time we dont want same mistake made and not really enjoy it that much

i know it probably sounds horrible but we both say were enjoying it but the way we did it last time was better so if you do it again it will be enjoyable rather than something to eat

i make a few soups and dp will eat them and say its nice but the way you did it last time was gorgeous an di'll ask him to remember what i i did what was lacking etc so i can make it perfect next time round he'll still eat it and be grateful but we do beleive in honesty money wasted otherwise

tell him he's welcome to cook it next time

MY DH sometimes says things like this - is a bit annoying, but then he usually means that I had done a particularly good one the time before and something was not quite the same the following time. I do get annoyed about it though. I will make something, say a pizza - will make dough, make sauce for base, do toppings etc, and then he will come over as I am putting it in the oven and sprinkle on some herbs. Then as we are eating he will say something like 'oh, that's really nice, but the herbs just really make it special don't they?'. This really winds me up.

He does do about 50% of the cooking though. I do tell him to shut up when he says these things. If I am not keen on something he has made I wouldn't say anything. Think it's just polite to say something is nice!

Dh does comment on my cooking, he praises and thanks a lot but will make comments and suggestions. I don't mind tbh after all he taught me to cook,then married me and has hardly cooked since but that's another story and I am now far superior to him anyway .

IMO - if you have nothing good to say then say nothing. He should not have made a comment like that. Let him make the next bloody goulash. From experience my DH chooses his words v carefully when commenting on dinner or he'll wind up getting none next day!

Do you think that last weeks was better?
I bet it was

It's nice to see I'm not actually being over-sensitive, I thought I was going to get lots of "oh fgs get over it" type comments!!

I thought it was lovely and not at all different to the last time I made it, mrsruffallo, and ds (who isn't feeling well and hasn't been eating) polished off a whole bowlful as he did last week, so I think that actually last time my dh was starving and just extra appreciative of it!

He does occasionally make these sorts of comments though, and while I do appreciate he doesn't want me to be cooking things he doesn't like, I also feel that there is a polite or diplomatic way to say something like this. Plus, as we have quite a large range of meals that we eat, with only firm favourites coming up more than once or twice or month, it's hardly going to kill him to eat something not-absolutely-perfect every now and again, is it? And if I've done something new which turns out totally disgusting and inedible (which thank goodness doesn't happen often!!), I'm the first to admit it and we go out for dinner.

Men, eh?
I still love the DaDaDa's comment though ("and he was better looking"), making me chuckle too

If it were me i would say

'You know what you can do dear? Cook your own Fu*king dinner in future!' but i am quite rude and to the point.......

yanbu, and criticising cooking is equivalent to criticising performance in bed, so your first idea was not so far off.