to be really annoyed ds got a perfect bill of health and I did not

[christie1]

DS and I needed some tests done by coincidence at the same time. I have not overweight, have been exercising for over 25 years, quit smoking 10 years ago and eat lots of fruit and veg. DS is overweight by about 40 lbs, never exercises, smoked 25 years (quite 30 days ago) and eats only meat, rice or potatoes or pasta and never eats a fruit or veg. He eats junk food in front of the tv every night and a full breakfast 2X a week with eggs and bacon.Neither of us are drinkers so not an issue. So, I have cholesterol that is above normal and his is perfect as is his heart and lungs. I have to get further tests as my liver and thyroid are not at the level they should be either. I am happy he is healthy, but, I am so demoralized. I feel like gaining 40 lbs, start smoking again and give up the fruit and veg and eat what I want. I don't get it. I have been pregant for the last 11 years ( 6 kids and one just in May) could that have screwed up my health as I have very rough pregnancies with morning sickness and can't eat much when pregnant. It just seems so damn unfair!!!!! How can his cholesteral be ok with that diet?

I presume you mean dh?

Look at it this way - how much worse would you be if your weren't already living a healthy lifestyle? I do agree that 6 babies would probably knock your body out of whack.

It is a worry that your dh will think that it is okay to lead this lifestyle as the tests have shown that at this point in time it is okay.

christie1, you are right. Life isn't fair. Of course having 6 babies is going to change your body. You've taken good care of yourself but time doesn't treat everyone the same.
I read once that single women lose 7 years of their lifetime after they take a husband. Stress.
Men however gain 7 years after they marry...you can guess why.
twentypence is correct...just think how things would be if you didn't take good care of yourself. Chin up though, I'm sure your dh's doctor mentioned that eating right and losing weight could lengthen his life. Despite the good report for now, he will have to change some of his habits. Time gets everyone.

Thanks, I know I am being petty. (did mean dh no ds)I think he is going to use his good tests to change his lifestyle. He did quit smoking and now is going to try to lose weight. I am glad. Your right too, how bad shape woudl I be in if I had not taken care of myself. It's hard sometimes to know what to do, eat this, don't eat that, etc. dh just eats what he likes and ignores it all. Maybe he has the answer.

Oh nono. christie1 don't you change a thing about how you are handling your health. You are doing everything right. I'm in awe that you have had 6 children and still hold to a diet..I, cannot say how many times I've resolved to lose weight and end up falling off for holidays (the childrens fault) and birthdays (again the childrens fault) and all those yummy snacks (lol, you know I'm kidding) but with children you are subjected to celebrating with them. So many celebrations have food involved. Family and food go together like peanut butter and jelly (here in the US) or fish and chips (for those in the UK). So really, you are doing awesome and maybe your hubby can look to you for guidance.
Of course you can always say that despite his bad habits his clean bill of health is YOUR doing. Remember those 7 years of his life? They are directly credited to the wife taking the stress off the husband. ;)

I have a friend who's spends 40 minutes on a treadmill every day, doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, eats a good diet.

8 weeks after her last baby was born she felt a bit tired and was having palpitations.

Was referred to a cardiac specialist who told her her heart was failing and that she might need a transplant.

She was appalled and asked him why this had happened to her as she'd been so careful with her health.

His response to her was that if she hadn't take such good care of herself the likehood is that she'd have been coming into hospital in a body bag, rather than walking in for her consultant appointment appointment.