to be annoyed at this parent?

[beansfortea]

my DD is in a class with her best friend - another mum has complained that my DD is not playing with her DD just because her DD doesn't have any friends of her own - AIBU? surely my DD isn't expected to be friends with this child just because they are in the same class?

My DD1 was saying things like "I'm not friends with X because she's friends with Y", so I explained X can have more than one friend. I don't know how she got her ideas. A few days ago I was on the tube with her and between two stations most of the carriage had got up and left, she said "Is it because they don't like us?"

Girls can be really mean to eachother imo. Maybe your daughter is being a little harsh in the way she goes about excluding this other girl??
I always tell mine that they shouldnt make any body else feel bad or left out. (not that they do! )

How old are these girls btw?

my DD is 6

It is perfectly OK for your dd not to play with the other girl.

What's not OK is for the other girl to ask or hint at joining in play with your dd and for your dd not to let her. Do you think this might be happening?

6! I wouldnt worry! They will all have different best friends and different people will get left out. Maybe it will be your daughters turn at some point.
Girls are nasty and bitchy (in their own childlike way) its all a learning thing, learning to get along with different types of people. We all have to do it.

I just don't think it's going to be a friendship, I had the other girl here to play but some children just don't get on, I don't think my DD should be made to feel bad for not liking this other girl and wanting to play with her own best friend.

I DO agree beansfortea, but i do think she should also be a little sympathetic for this other girl - that very sad for her, that she has no one else to play with. I bet shes been really upset and thats why the parent had to say something.