In not wanting dd at nearly 10 to watch Scary Movie at her friends 10th birthday party?

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I don't think I am and I am quite shocked that her mum thinks its appropriate for a group of 9 and 10 year olds when it is an 18. But when dd mentioned to the mum today that the film was an 18 she seemed unconcerned and said that this was just beacuse there was a bit of kissing and swearing I've not seen it so I have no idea what its like but I find it hard to believe that it can be that tame if its rated 18.

So what do you all think? Am I making a fuss about nothing? Should I let her go and watch it? Its a difficult situation as this mum picks dd up from school every day for me and hangs on to her for 10-15 mins until I can get back from picking up ds. She has really helped me out this last year and i don't want to offend her but I really don't want dd to watch this film.

If I say this to her she's going to see it as me judging her decision to let her dd watch it and I know she will be offended. What do you think I should do?

Out of all the Scary Movies, I would personally say that the third one is not as bad as the others and is quite funny. There doesn't seem to be any profanity in it and it is very tongue in cheek. To be honest, there are clips in it which I have let my twin boys watch because they are hillarious. Some bloke pretending to rap like eminem (you have to watch it to appreciate it, haha). Mind you I think it was about five minutes of the film in total that was appropriate for their age group.

The general overtone of the other scenes were glamourising death and also making a mockery of guns/knives which I personally felt was wholly inappropriate, which was why they could watch the 'vetted' five minutes!

ps, my boys are nearly eleven

YANBU, I wouldn;t let a 10 year old watch an 18 film.

I allowed to watch 'Nightmare on Elm St 3' when I was 13 with my friend and her brother (my mum, in her defence, was and is very naive and not into films of any description, so when I insisted I would be fine she took my word for it). I didn't sleep without the light on until I was nearly 19 and a couple of yrs later when I was at another friends birthday party and they had the first one in the series to watch I actually phoned my parents and asked them to pick me up!

I think Choc teapots idea is a really good way to go to minimise the risk of causing offence.

Thanks for the replies

DD announced this morning that she doesn't want to go and sleepover anyway as she never gets any sleep when she stays there lol. I think I will use CT's idea too though.