To expect preschool to check my daugher is properly dressed...

[Alderney]

Well, she is always properly dressed when she goes in...:-)

My daughter is 4.5 and is at preschool. She was at a different preschool last year and I think the brilliance of that one has jaded me slightly (we can't go back to that previous one as we won't get a Primary 1 place in the school its attached to - whereas she will be going to the Primary school that her current Preschool is attached to).

On a Thursday they do PE at preschool.

When I collected my DD today she wasn't wearing her skirt. They do wear smocks in nursery so she was covered up because that comes down to mid thigh.

This has happened before, on a Thursday - I've collected her to find her with no jeans on under her smock.

She goes every day with a bag which contains a full change of clothes, and a gym kit - so she certainly has clothes for the lower part of her body - if not 2 or even 3 choices (the original clothes, the spare clothes and a pair of gym shorts...).

There were 4 adults to the 20 children in her preschool class - the teacher, the classroom Assistant, the Special needs teacher and a student teacher - with ratios like that am I really expecting too much for someone to notice that after PE my DD doesn't have anything on under her smock.

I'm working on obviously telling DD to put her clothes back on when she gets changed. On another forum I have been called a horrific prude (who will irreperably damage my children) in the past because I really don't like my children running around in public, in communal changing rooms etc without clothes on. I really think its a matter of preserving her dignity to make sure that she has her skirt on under her smock.

Would it be out of hand to specifically say to the classroom staff - on a thursday can they please make sure that DD puts all her clothes back on after gym and doesn't miss out her skirt or trousers?

sorry - what I meant to say, and the reason I explained at the beginning about the different Preschools she has attended is that there would have been no way this would have happened in her previous preschool (with 2 members of staff).

There is no way she would have been left to play half dressed.

I expect that, at 4.5 they are try to develop the sort of independance school would expect. OTOH, even at school in Reception, my children were helped or encouraged whenever necessary.

IMO YANBU. If she is dressing herself, they should be giving her the once-over to make sure everything is up to a reasonable standard.

Don't think YABU, yes, they should check/assist as necessary. Though there is a fine line if an independent child refuses help, what then?

But if its her dignity that bothers you, be prepared for the fact that she might even do PE in her vest and knickers from time to time! and that most schools seem to have mixed gender changing up till about Y5!