To be v.irritated.

[smurfgirl]

Yes its about the wedding.

We get married in 10 days.

We sent save the dates at Christmas.

We sent invites in July + very detailed info packs (hotel info, directions etc)

So WHY does someone text me today and say he is unsure if he can make it He says he has no money - he works f/t and lives at home FFS.

When it was a mutal friends wedding in August we drove him there and back and he stayed at ours and never asked for petrol money etc. I just feel really upset that he has obviously left it to the last minute and cannot be bothered to save up to spend time with us.

Everyone seems to be dropping out and we are now below the minimum 80 people we need, despite inviting 104 people I just feel so sad that this guy who i thought was a close friend can't be arsed with us.

ARGH. If you live in Teesside and want a free meal feel free to join us next Saturday.

We had the opposite...someone called upa aweek before our wedding to ask if they could bring their new boyfriend. Dh wavered but I said no. He was welcome to come in the evening to the dancing but not to the ceremony or meal as it was all sorted and table plans etc printed (aside from just being a bloody cheek!)

beanieb - its not mega amounts, but it is when you live at home with your mum sans car, he doesn't go out either

Yes they have parking disks still.

In a car:
www.yourweddingcar.com/p_duchess.html

no no more free parking in yarm

oh
maybe I've just never managed to get a space!
Enjoy your day

v. nice car.

No more free parking!!!!!!!!!! Then again it's quite a "wealthy" area I suppose that's there logic.

You can park on the high street for free still. Well my parents have not mentioned anything? I have not been there since late August though.

Thats a bit crap of him, if it was a week later I would be visiting Middlesbrough and would have happily attended .

No it's been a lot longer than that since I've been (well went to a wedding in August but parked in the school) and so you're probably right

You've got to get one of those disk thingies - you can get them for 50p a few of the shops sell them.
I think it allows you to park on the high street for 2 hours.

I live in Thornaby, Smurfgirl. Unfortunately I already have other plans but I hope you have a fantastic day despite the crapness of you invitees!

Smurfgirl you nedd a disc thingy as per bouncing turtle - they are hot on tickets. I live in Ingleby and if i hadnt been busy would have popped along with bouncing turtle. We are in yarm on a sat at daughters drama club so will give a wave if i see you ! That church is lovely and Headlam Hall ---- ooooooooooo nice! Hope you have a wonderful day.

Oh yeah I know about the disks just meant its not pay per hour or anything.

I have chilled a bit now

Nappyzone, I get married at 1.30 so look out for me (i'll be the one in white ivory)

Oooh I got married at Headlam hall!!!! It's beauuuutiful Is Andrew still the wedding planner there?

The food is wonderful, we got married on a sunday so had sunday roast.It was sooooo good

Very very excited for you!

No its Angela but I have seen Andrew a few times. Its a lovely place.

Wow there are a lot of us around here

The people who have made the effort to come are those who matter most.

Trust me, on the day, you won't miss him!

Best Wishes

Just been to a fab wedding at Headlam Hall - venue gorg, food delish! Enjoy - it'll be fab xxx

I ate two main courses at my wedding ; I was starving! Maybe you should keep one to the side, just in case.

Have a lovely day.

Midge25 was the DJ good? They have a new one so I am a bit worried.

It is a gorgeous venue.

(9 days )

I'd just text back and say "OK then I'll put you down as a no."

He sounds like a freeloader who is hoping that if he makes this vague "threat" of not being able to come you'll sort something out for him - somewhere free to stay, free transport, etc, like you did last time.

Suspect he will be living with his mum for quite some time yet . . .

I do seem to remember reading years ago that a certain percentage (20%?) of people will always be unable to come. I think it said, if you want 100 guests, invite 125 or something.

I have been married twice and I have found that to be the case each time. I even find it to be the case with children's parties - if I need 20 guests, I invite 23 or so (& then sweat blood in case they can all bloody come!)

I have also had the no-show-on-the-day. With no explanation in one case, which beggars belief! I have also seen no-shows for children's parties. You can tell the ones who genuinely intended to come as they give a present [grasping emoticon]

Hope you have a wonderful day!

Do people really text on the day to say they can't go to a wedding? I think that is disgusting. I think you friend is trying to get a free ride. Why can't he afford it. He must have a suit, or at least a shirt and tie if he works in a shop. What's he got to pay for? Nothing. I would def text him and tell ok thanks and leave it at that. It is so thoughtless, you have enough on your mind without worrying about his money worries etc. Typical man! I wouldn't worry about the minimum people thing at your reception, in this day of the credit crunch I think they will be just happy that they have a wedding to do at all.

Keep smiling, have a wonderful day, it goes by so quickly.