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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

To want DP to dress DD in the morning just occassionally (sorry a rant)

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dilemma456 · 29/09/2008 10:15

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pooka · 29/09/2008 10:16

Why were you making him a cup of tea?

YANBU.

tarantula · 29/09/2008 10:19

You made him tea???? Why???? Think you need to do two things here. Firstly concentrate on getting you and dd ready in the mornigns and leave him to sort himself out totally. Secondly take the duvet with you when you get up in the morning

biglips · 29/09/2008 10:20

err.....im sure that Dp doesnt need to be looking after as well!! ...

SCREAM at him (so he can wake up) and kick his arse into gear!..

Dont give him a cuppa either

Is he always like that?

im sorry but YANBU at all at the slighest!

TheHedgeWitch · 29/09/2008 10:41

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ninja · 29/09/2008 10:44

Hi dilema - you could be me except in my case I ofetn have to get DH out of bed and his first words are: 'can you put the bath on' or 'where's my cup of tea?'

Dump DD in bed with him with instructions to dress her, if he doesn't dump her nreakfast there too and make him get on with it....

OK sorry no other suggestions just sympathy.

VictorianSqualor · 29/09/2008 10:51

Put DD and her clothes on your bed with DP when you get in the shower.

Dropdeadfred · 29/09/2008 10:54

you don't feel clean and fresh just having a shower the night before though

cmotdibbler · 29/09/2008 10:57

If he'd been my DH he would have been wearing the tea instead of a shirt. In our house, we get up at the same time, one makes tea whilst the other sorts DS out with his breakfast, then one gets dressed, then the other whilst the dressed person gets DS dressed.

The more that you facilitate him mithering around in the morning, the more he will do it.

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dilemma456 · 29/09/2008 10:59

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cupsoftea · 29/09/2008 11:02

You sort dd & yourself out & leave your dp to get himself a short & cup of tea.

lizziemun · 29/09/2008 11:02

Leave the adult to sort himself out in the morning and concentrate (sp) on you and dd.

cupsoftea · 29/09/2008 11:02

Meant shirt!!

HonoriaGlossop · 29/09/2008 11:05

YABU to make him tea, find him a shirt, tidy up, sort DD and all her clothes/nursery stuff. He will carry on doing this so long as you go on allowing it. Of course it's not YOUR fault he's crap but you don't have to carry on allowing it. Assert yourself and make him take a fair share. You're just being a mug to make him tea and find shirts for him when he does nothing. It's lovely to do stuff for our partners as part of the give and take of a relationship but that does not seem to exist here.

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