to find it upsetting that I can look at photos of my dc when they were younger but can't actually remember what they were like

[emkana]

is it only me?

So glad I came across this thread, I feel exactly the same and was worried it was just me and I was a bad mother or some such, or losing my mind.

thanks so much everyone

glad i found this. only yesterday i was feeling that i can't even remember what ds looked like as a baby.

I have the same problem - can remember DS1 and look at photos of DS2 and can't remember him as a baby at all - might be because I was so exhausted with two under two and being nearly 43 at the time!

same here

i dont remember the details either.

I know what you mean. DS is nearly 1 and on one hand, I look at him and think "where did my baby go?" and on the other hand, I really can't remember what he was like when he was a tiny baby. Weird.
I have a niece who is 6 months older than DS. I was at my sister's at the weekend and she's got a photo of a newborn in a white sleepsuit. I actually had to ask her if it was niece or DS. It was DS

I have just about stopped crying when I look at baby photos of my dd - She is only 3mo!! Its sad that the time goes so fast x

I'm the same.

Mine are nearly 6 and 4, I look at baby pictures now and it doesn't seem real anymore Its almost like they were never babies, I have no real memories of it at all anymore.

This is so wierd! I was looking at a photo of DS1 this morning who is the spit of his younger brother and all I can think about is DS2 who is the same age as DS1 in the photo ( does that make sense?!). I felt really dereft and kind of guilty that I couldn't recall DS1 as a baby. I am so glad that other people have this sense of dislocation too, I'm not abnormal!

That's nothing, my husband can't tell which baby is in a photo we have up in the house - and we have a DS and a DD and this baby is in a circus strongman patterned outfit. Now I was never into pink, frilly florals, but I think even I would have stopped short at a strongman outfit for a baby girl.

Me too, it is sad isn't it. I have some video which is great to look at, but you do forget don't you.

I feel exactly the same. I do feel quite upset about it occasionally but if I'm not the only one I can only imagine I'm not just loosing my faculties it's a natural process. Is sad though

I can remember what I did with DD1 when she was a baby, but I can't really believe that that baby was DD1 IYSWIM! I said this to a friend who reassured me that it was normal, and that you can't imagine having a different relationship with your child than the one you have now - so I can't imagine/remember me with a mum-baby relationship with DD1 as we now have a mum-5 year old relationship.

emanka - I was just talking to dh about this last night.
I really worry that they'll be teenagers and I won't remember a THING about these years.
It's not helped by the fact that Dh's mum remembers absolutely every blo**dy thing about his and his brother's childhood years. I just don't have that sort of brain. My sis does and it's a source of constant annoyance.
Every time we look at video of the boys we alywas say "we MUST take more" to remember how they sounded and the funny things they did, but of course life just gets in the way doesn't it?

i,m 45 and i can only now remember in my mind what my eldest son looked like as a baby / his son my grandson is spit and image of him but suppose i,,ll have to wait for the others 4 to have kids lol mind you my babys only 3 so will have a bloody long wait if i,m not in my box

Due to operations and illness I dont remember my child being less than 3, it makes me really sad. I missed out on loads as well because I couldnt do anything I wanted to do or even lift her properly so no not just you,