To expect people to make their own way home from a night out

[hardworker]

OK i'm feeling a bit annoyed about this.

Without asking me, friends assume I will drive an extra 15/20 miles out of my way to drop them off after a night out, then have a go at me about "how could I possibly expect them to make their own way back at that time of night/in the dark" etc etc. Grown women by the way, not teenagers.

I picked them up from a station on en route to where we were going and had planned to drop them back there afterwards.

I very rarely drink alcohol(once or twice a year) and so it feels like they have now decided i'm their taxi driver EVERY time.

AIBU

Must look into that one kerrymum

The point tho has nothing to do with the extra petrol costs, it's all to do with me wanting to get home at a reasonable hour after our night out has finished and NOT to be driving around for ages dropping the others off.

My car, I fill up and pay for the petrol. It doesn't bother me.

No, YANBU.

I would never expect to share lifts with anyone who lives so far away.

I remember going to a hen night and driving myself, purely because I was worried about getting home safely. One of the sozzled hens, whom I'd never met before, asked me where I lived and how I was getting home. She gave me puppy dog eyes and said, "I don't know how I'm going to get home".

I would've had to do an extra 20 miles if I had taken her so I ignored her comment.

My atitude was: You've enjoyed your wine, now I'm going to enjoy my drive home.

Word
now that is taking the P.
Pleased you had the courage to ignore her, saying that, although i'm a soft touch with friends, strngers dont get round me that easily

if someone offers then that's different but i don't like to ask. if someone is already dropping other people off and i'm only 10 minutes away then i might say oh if i give you some petrol money would you mind dropping me off too but wouldn't otherwise.

YANBU, i have been in the same situation and it really wound me up.
As you says its the getting in at daft oclock that is annoying as much as anything.
One of my friends had the cheek to moan at me if i was running late to pick her up
Do you have children?
You could say you have to get back for the sitter ?

yes they are taking the piss, but you are also letting them

they can either drive, get a taxi or you can drop at station where you picked them up

I wouldn't do this if it meant a 40 mile round trip. No way. (Not unless it was an emergency when I would do it like a shot.)

Let them drink less so they can afford a taxi. They are grown women who should be responsible for getting themselves home and not relying on you. That said you are letting thm get away with it - next time say 'sorry we agreed I'd drop you at X not home and i don't have time today to drive you home'

For me the money / petrol wouldn't be an issue but there is NO WAY I would be in bed at least 45 minutes later by dropping them all off when I have 2 small childen who wake at the crack of dawn.

They are being unreasonable. I like a drink myself but have often had this whilst on nights out whilst pregnant and driving. I would get so pissed off. On rare occasion going out with car these days i quite enjoy there being no room for lifts as room is taken up with car seats/buggy etc! Just had the piss taken too many times!

We Had friends that would do this with DH. Sometimes he would take the car and if he fancied a drink would leave it safe overnight and pick up next day. But This one time They phoned to ask us out for the blokes birthday, said they were going to city about 25 miles away.
Yes we were up for a good night out and a drink, the next question to DH......"What time are you picking us up???"
We assumed that alternitive travel was going to be arranged or she would be driving but her response was no i'm having a drink!!!
We told them that DH would like to have the option of having a drink so would go to place of our choosing!!!

Some people just take the Piss....if you let them!!!

Hi, sorry not replied earlier. No I dont have children, but, as my name suggests, I am a hard worker, sometimes long hours and so it is nice to have a bit of ME time ( taking advantage of the child free years at the mo ), like the idea of buggies and car seats cluttering up the car tho . So the overall opinion is that I am not BU.

I'll get it sorted.

Thanks all.