arrrrrrrrrrrgh i am not your personal chef i will do dinner when i am ready to cook it......

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and if you dont like it cook your fing dinner!!!

is what i said to dh before walking out of tesco and leaving him with a trolley full of food and no money.

My dd dances too on a Monday between 5pm-6pm. I make tea when I get in. So I can see where you are coming from on that.

But my dd is 10, 3 1hr classes of dancing a week would be far too much for her, more so I would have thought for a 5 year old.

Do you work?

Agree with blinglovin, and no ynbu imo, you should do what fits in with your routine, if your dp doesnt like it, he should try to help out more.

We dont eat till 6.30 in our house, but that is because i dont get home from work until gone 6, and dont have a dp to start tea for us. Ds2 also doesnt get 12 hrs sleep (more like 10.5), and seems to function fine

erm... your dh is being an arse. Tell him to learn to cook. Tell him to get himself a snack at work at the same time as your dds have theirs. At least tell him to eat what he's given and not moan about it, if he can't cook by himself.

My dd also does Brownies on a Thursday. She has a hot dinner at school on that day, then I make her sandwiches or last night she had beans on toast as we leave at 5 and don't get home until 4. Brownies finish at 7 and by the time we get home, its far too late to start tea.

VT, 10.5 hours is a lot more than 6 hours though.

i am starting a new job tonight. its just in a pizza shop but the hours suit me for the time being

the hours are friday, saturday and sunday night so wont interfere with any of the families

Option 1 Weekly shop, dh gets home cooks food and has it waiting for 6pm. He sits down at the weekend and you plan the meals for the week. If he doesn't like what is
there to cook/eat, he doesn't eat. Simple i'm afraid.

Option 2 weekly shop. DH comes to the dance school relieves you so you can go straight home (no shop) and cook tea to have it waiting. If he's hungry before then - get him to take a banana/snack to eat on the bus on the way home. IF he leaves things there/forgets to bring things home...he replaces them or goes back to the venue to collect them straight away - it's called responsibility. I tell you, once he's had to do it a few times, he'll suddenly become a lot better at remembering the bring all of the stuff home.
You are pandering to him at the moment. I'm all for give and take in a relationship, but he is taking the proverbial at the mo.

Your timetables have changed since having children, he needs to accept that 5pm tea is unreaslistic and adapt his eating patterns to fit in.
HOWEVER, I do think the current teatime doesn't help and is a bit too late. 6pm at the latest should be OK, then time for wind down,bath and bed by 7/7.30.

Sorry if it sounds harsh, but to be honest it sounds like you're looking after 3 children.
Good luck

lol smoggie i often joke to my friend that i am a single mother of three. yes id be fine with having tea done for 6pm if he made things easier for me i.e. agreed to have casseroles/jacket potatos/spag bol etc things that could be made earlier and be slowly cooking while i am at dancing.

i think you need to sort him out and encourage him to behave like a grown up before you move into joint place together... why does he "hate" her dancing? how do you feel about that?

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"agreed to have casseroles/jacket potatos/spag bol etc things that could be made earlier and be slowly cooking while i am at dancing."

In my house he wouldn't get a choice.

I'd sit down and say 'right, you're right, dinner is too late, but 5pm is unrealistic. I'm not cancelling DD's dance classes but I am happy to make the effort to have dinner ready for 6pm. However, I shall be doing a weekly shop to make it easier, and the dinner will be what I serve, not what you choose from tesco every day. If there is anything you really do not like then let me know now and I shan't cook it."

he doesnt like the cost and he doesnt like that it takes up so much of my day.

i dont really like that he doesnt like her doing it. i think he should support and encourage her in things that she enjoys so much. but to his credit he never complains about her doing it in front of her and always trys to show an interest. he watches all her performances and asks her to show him what dances she knows at home.