To thinks that a GP's personal views shouldn't overide 'your health welfare'

[Oblomov]

Bit of a long story. And I appreciate that I am in the AIBU section, so might get told off, if I keep adding info later, but .....

My GP has a 'less is more' attitude. She told me so. This doesn't sit with my view. My view is that it is of no concern, what her personal views are, I think her primary interest should be my welfare.

I am thinking that I should just change GP's, but although we have quite a big practice, it seems to me that quite a few of the GP's have this attitude. And i don't know who to change to.

There has been quite a few stories in press recently, about pharmacy staff refusing to administer morning after pill, becasue it goes against their beleifs. See, I think that is wrong. I consider my issue not dissimilar.

AIBU ?

Can you potentially move within striking distance of your DCs school(s) and/or your DH's work? This seems to me the big win on logistics/car journeys - if you can reduce the amount of commuting time for you and the children, say, to almost nothing (and pretty soon enable them to go to school/activities alone) or else get your DH to drop them on the way to work, you will make huge time (and money) savings.

I think the GP is right to be cautious, but if she simply didn't know if it would be safe given your circumstance, she could have tried to find out for you! The consultants you see at Kings are fantastic, and I am sure would have been more than willing to take a quick phone call (Prof Amiel gave me her mobile ph no. after DS2 was born in case I had to ring her).

It does annoy me no end when pharmacisits refuse to fill the prescriptions. I have actually walked out of a pharmacist after he refused to fill one for DS2 - he was on regular medication, dose hadn't changed, and he had been prescribed by a pediatric consultant at a top London children's hospital. Next pharmacist was fine...

Sorry wrong thread

same as tiggerslovebouncing's post...

squigglywig - do you realise how insulting to the medical profession it is to say that there are some of them who deliberately fail to relieve pain? The op is pregant and diabetic. That means it is more difficult to treat her safely and there is a whole range of options that are ruled out. In the same way treating somebody with compromised mobility rules out some treatment options - not because the GP is trying to leave them to suffer but because the medication could HARM them. Options are limited in treating people with kidney failure because so many medicatons are nephrotoxic (sp?) and HARM could result. The op would obviously be better off seeing a GP because she has no respect and trust for this one but I don't think it's because that GP has failed. She's done her job.

yanbu

Anna8888, Oblomov ? Over-nanalysising ? Never
I promise I will do what you say. Tee hee.

YANBU, but I eally don't think it is the same as pharmacy staff refusing to administer the morning after pill.

NorthernLurker - I do realise it is insulting to the medical profession to say that there are those who do not relieve pain. Hence I was careful to say that it is a small minority who do this. I'm sorry if that is uncomfortable reading, but in my experience it is categorically the case.

I'm not trying to offend anyone, least of all the overwhelming majority of the medics who don't do this. And as I said in the first post, I don't know what Oblomov's GP was trying to balance in her own mind so I don't know if she was bu or not.

I do sympathise with Oblomov though as being in pain, feeling unheard and feeling powerless is pretty shitty - whether your medic has done their best for you or not.

'squigglywig - do you realise how insulting to the medical profession it is to say that there are some of them who deliberately fail to relieve pain?'

But some do, NL! They really do! There was a thread on here not too long ago where a person with kidney stones was left with no pain relief - those things hurt! There is a poster on here who was left with NO pain relief after an operation.

That is WRONG and it can actually make things a hell of a lot worse for many patients.

That's why if a patient feels his/her healthcare professional has failed in their duty of care, there are avenues for complaint.

It's equally insulting to be treated like someone who doesn't deserve to be listened to or treated appropriately.

I know lots of very good GPs but I've also come across some shockers. A minor example, but the one who gave me antibiotics without noticing I was on the pill, then got cross with me when I realised the mistake and went back for the MAP. Like it was MY fault.

But the really awful one was my Grandmother's GP. I cannot forgive him for the way he neglected an elderly lady with co-morbidity, including Type II diabetes. The fucker was only a part-time GP, spend the rest of his days selling second-hand cars, fgs. Refused to do home visits, meaning this frail elderly lady had to rely on favours to get to his surgery. And under-treated her diabetes. If she had been properly looked after, she would have been healthier and able to cope in her own home for a lot longer.

'And under-treated her diabetes.'

My ILs had one who refused to even test FIL for it. He finally collapsed at work and his diabetes was diagnosed in hospital.

He told MIL she was suffering from 'stress' and 'menopause' - although she'd gone through menopause some 11 years before.

She had Type II diabetes as well.

Again, it's like any other profession, there are good ones and they outweigh the bad. But bad ones do exist, sadly.

GP's do not always get it right.
My GP is wonderful, My mother's GP on the other hand... well. Its an entire other thread, but put it this way, a community Matron has had to step in over my mother's care because the GP prescribed medication that was contraindicated for my mother's heart faliure, diabetes and the water tablets she is taking.
I understand Macdoodle's frustration in feeling that this thread is something of a personal sleight considering that Macdoodle has obv, had a stressful day, but otoh I can also see where Oblomov is coming from.
YANBU Oblomov.

It's not insulting to say that there are people in any profession who don't do their job properly (in the case of medics, that would include deliberately avoiding giving pain relief) because, sadly, it's true of every profession. I can also confirm that I have been dealt with by some very uncaring medics who have been unmoved by the fact I was suffering and in pain, and have been unwilling to do even simply things to help me, including fetching medication I should have had hours ago. To assume all members of a 'caring' profession have to be treated like superbeings is very harmful, and, as people have said, is insulting to patients who are just deemed to be ignorant and greedy for painkillers.

I had a tosser senior lecturer doctor who actually laughed at me when I was justifiably frightened, having just been given some very bad news. Have also had some very good doctors.