To be FURIOUS that exp's new gf has pictures of ds splashed all over her effing facebook page

[iLoveIceCream]

I think that is key tbh.

He is your child and idea of someone else having a close, mothering even, relationahip with him is bloody hard surely?

However, that is separate from this issue. treat them separately and chat to her about privacy and to us about living with a step parent figure.

Well I have my DS pics on facebook, so those of my mates who we don't see very often can get a look at his new haircut/how cute he is getting etc. So I haven't got a lot of sympathy for the viewpoint that having a child's picture on the internet immediately puts that child in MORTAL DANGER because PEEDAFILS can turn themselves into vapour, sneak down the broadband cable and steal the child out of his/her bed - or whatever crap you might have read in the Daily Mail.

never asked for your sympathy, I just said I don't like it and would not like my children on it and yes although I do think its dangerous I'm not opposed to anyone else putting their own kids pic's on internet.
I just wanted to know what op is annoyed about...

never asked for your sympathy, I just said I don't like it and would not like my children on it and yes although I do think its dangerous I'm not opposed to anyone else putting their own kids pic's on internet.
I just wanted to know what op is annoyed about...

This particular case aside, you can set privileges with facebook photo albums. It's possible to set them so that only your friends can see them, and not friends of friends. This is useful if you have pictures of your children.

However, bear in mind that there is a loophole. It happens like this:

Harry is friends with Tom who is friends with Dick (but Dick and Harry are not friends with each other).

Harry has a photo album on Facebook.

Tom comments on a photo of Harry's children saying "Great photo mate!" or something similar.

This comment, plus accompanying photo, will appear (along with any other Tom news) on Dick's Facebook news-feed. And if Dick clicks on it, he can then browse through the whole of Harry's album, despite not being a friend of Harry's. And even though Harry has set his privileges otherwise.

Try it. You'll see what I mean...

its just taken me a bit offguard, i didnt know there was a serious relationship between ex and gf, serious enough for them to spend all ds time with his father with her as well or indeed for her to advertise him as her own on the internet

i think its the latter then, you sound more bothered by your son spending time with them both as a unit, If he's happy leave it alone I thought you were annoyed at his pic on internet, not because your exp new gf put it there.. soz

I am equally annoyed by the fact its on the internet, it completely undermines me, I see the 2 as related. How do I explain? If I knew exp and gf were in a stable loving relationship - not just shagging partners for want of a better term, I may be more comfortable with her having pictures of him (in a private file) but am pretty sure he's there for a bit off arm candy

I think your real issue is with the gf not the pic's and considering you've not even met her i think your being a bit unfair does your son like her? Cos really thats all that matters that hes happy and well cared for.

Bearing in mind if I allowed (which I wouldnt) any current beau of mine to add pictures of ds to his facebook, the shit would hit the fan bigstyle. I've already been verbally warned that if i let another man near HIS child, he'll go fucking mad

he's very mature

JOJO my son is 21 months he is incapable of expressing his like or dislike of someone

No I havent met her but ive been in the receipt of some highly nasty texts from her so before you accuse me of having problems with her, not about my original post, you could take the time to consider that this is merely the tip of the iceburg and that the amount of daily crap I put up with from both of them, which I let go of on a daily basis to keep the peace for my son's sake, you may not be so harsh in your judgement of me

It sounds like you both need to realise your are seperated, you both sound from what you have said, far too interested in what the other is up too, hes prob trying to make you jealous.

Why are you looking her up on Facebook? I have put the majority of my Facebook pictures on Friends only, or friends of friends, and I am only friends with people I actually genuinely like. It sounds like you may still be on a friends setting with your ex, which is little odd, unless you are wanting to keep tabs on him. It sounds like you need to let go, and move to a shared parenting only set up with your ex. I don't think there is anything much you can do about the situation if you don't have a civil relationship with the girl friend.

I have noticed that too UQD, I think it should be changed its really annoying if you have put that you only want friends to see your pictures....

tbh I don't blame you, and contry to what you may think SGB whilst a paedophile can't reach down the computer & grab my child - I don't know how their minds work - Would they take DS's head for example another body & have their jollys. unlikely probably but I'm not gonna take the risk.

I'd ask for the settings to be changed at the least. she may well have asked your ex, but unless you have an agreement like mine/XH's which is a blanket one (incl asking my own aunty to take DS's pics off of FB, so not like a random person) your X will say he gave his permission.

It does sound thou like she's staking her claim on your X, and trying to goad you at the same time.

all you would need to say (to FB if you wish) is it's your child and you don't allow pics of him online.

Nooka - we have mutual friends, comments on the pictures from these friends appeared on my live feed. I am not connected with ex, I blocked him months ago

YANBU. I would never never put photos of my kids on the internet and would be lived if someone else did.

Tell your Ex it has to go

I would message her and say please remove pictures of my Son off your facebook

Ooooo and report the pictures to Facebook if and say that they are pictures of your child and you don't wish them to be up on facebook

i think yabu and over reacting.
they are his children too and if he has decided that he is happy for his new partner to place photos of your children on facebook then that is a decision he has made as a parent.

I can understand your annoyance, i think it sounds like she has put them up just to annoy you, hoping you will see them and she will get a reaction from you, or like someone else said, she is staking her claim on her man, i find it quite bizarre that she would put them up tbh. I would report them, tell facebook some random stranger has pictures of your dc and your not happy about it. Dont say anything to her though, dont let her get the reaction she is looking for.

iLoveIceCream, that makes more sense, and I can see why you were upset Having a picture of your child suddenly appear on your Facebook news must have come as something of a shock. Might one of the friends be a better route to broach the subject? Have any of them got children so you could explain about the settings issue? I think you want to be an non confrontational as possible if you want to get a positive outcome.