to think that you shouldn't be working if it means you can't do your job when you child is sick?

[childcareneeded]

I had an appointment this week, but the person I was meant to see couldn't come because her DS "had a cold". There was no one to replace her. I feel let down.

I think if you can't do your job because your child is sick, and thus letting other people down, you shouldn't be doing particular jobs.

But what if she had a cold? and didnt come into work, would you still be pissed off?
I mean its a fact of life isnt it, people get ill and people look after them who they are doesnt really come into it. If dh got suddenly ill and needed my care then I would be there in a flash and not at work-no biggie.

It probably is a troll but perhaps everyone should fail to work in case they have to be off ill!
It isn't always possible to cover for an ill child. My mother has come 60 miles at the crack of dawn so that I can get to work but she has a life!! She couldn't always drop everything to come at once if needed.
I have looked after a friend's child when ill but I wouldn't want to do it often-anyway an ill child wants their own bed and their mother.
I would say that it came well before inconvenience of a changed appointment.

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Chilcareneeded; what was the appointment?

Was it your manicure, or your brazilian wax?

YABU, by the way.

YABU, I work, I have children and yes if they are sick, me or DH are off work. Maybe I should send her to nursery anyways just so i can do my job!! Stupid question TBH!!

We all have children, some of us work but we are parents first and foremost

What a stupid post. Go away.

YABU

What happens if you get sick and can't work - should you not work just incase?

Well E-fucking-ZACTLY! No-one should work, because they might get ill or have their house burgled or oversleep and therefore not be 100% reliable.
A few years back, before I had DS, I was in charge of a team of mostly female staff, some of whom had DC. The single most important thing staff had to do was fucking turn up, and yet quite a lot of the time people would cancel at very short notice because of childcare failures or sick children - or hangover,s or rows with boyfriends, or not really feeling like it.... I was always understanding of all excuses apart from when I really felt staff were taking the piss (ie every single week one girl would cancel her shift because her XP had let her down regarding childcare: yes, shitty for her but she used to phone 10 minutes after she should have been at work and wasn;t exactly falling over herself to arrange alternative childcare).

This may come as a surprise, but anyone who is "employed" gets paid leave. If you don't take the day as the leave you're entitled to, then it's unpaid leave, or flexi-leave (which you've earned by working unpaid overtime). Either way it's your right as an employee, and any employer worth their salt knows that this can't always be planned in advance. If this person is self-employed it is also her right to take time off as and when she needs to.

Any employer who thought I was being unreasonable for taking a day off when my child needed me, considering all the work they get out of me for free, could take a running jump as far as I'm concerned - and I would tell them so. Of course YABU!

OP, I have bad PMT so feck off

havent read whole thread

i'm a teacher with a 3 y o dd, if she is ill to the point where i dont go to work then obviously she comes first. I dont get paid though (which i think is par for course)

imo its no different to not being able to go to work for any other kind of emergency. I personally send dd to nursery unless they refuse to take her or i think she is too ill to be out of the house.

I've just had to cancel a day of meetings because I think my LO has chicken pox.

I had to way up the guilt of cancelling the meetings and it not being chicken pox, or sending him to nursery with a suspected contagious disease!

I will feel bad if they're just spots though!

I have only one thing to say to you, childcareneeded:

FUCK OFF

TROLL COCK OFF

I'm surprised MN has left your message on, Sheik, with its carefully worded argument explaining the philosophy behind your views.

Childcareneeded: you say the child whose parent let you down "had a cold". Would it have made any difference if the child had pneumonia or had suddenly died? As far as you are concerned the child was unwell, and there may be a host of other circumstances to which you are not privy.

Perhaps it is not so much the parent but the organisation that let you down. People are prevented from turning up to work for a variety of reasons, and there should be contingency plans.

i agree with the op.

there are certain jobs you shouldn't really be doing if you do not have adequate childcare back up plans.

not the average office admin type jobs but if your a barrister or something its a bit out of order to not turn up at work because your child has a cold.
fair enough if it was somekind of serious illness etc but a cold? come on.

it's dr bread not dry bread thankyou.

You need to do better than that drybread