To Not Send DD1 To School Tomorrow?

[DanJARMouse]

I probably am but...

DD1 is just 4yrs old. Part time at school until Easter.

It is my friends little boys 3rd birthday tomorrow and she is having a party at a soft play centre 30 minutes by car away.

Party starts at 11am, food at 12.30pm. DD1 is due to be at school for 1pm.

DH told the school today she wouldnt be in tomorrow as he had a hospital appointment and couldnt get her to school and back in time (and then DD1 piped up with "and ive got my friend xxxxx's birthday party", Dh covered it well with "yes, tomorrow is a busy day")

Am I being in unreasonable in allowing her time off for the party when really in all honestly she doesnt HAVE to be at school until next september by law?!

Ive got a case of the guilts now....

Ahhhhh. Great tip!!

Hurrah Riven! Are we all so conformist and cowed by the system i wondered??? Bet your boy will always remember that week. could you say that abt school?

lol at 'why didn't you arrange the party for the weekend? '
it's not her party

get to the party and enjoy. 4 years old or 14 - wouldn't bother me in the least.

I don't imagine she will miss much but you are teaching her that it is ok to lie to a teacher and that parties are more important than school - you won't want her thinking that in her teens.

but parties are more importnt than school lol

it wasnt me who lied - if i had picked her up i would have been honest - it was just DH who said it on the spot! (He's a bugger)

I do feel she isnt really learning anything new at school, it all seems to be playing and songs.

DD1 knows she is lucky to be going to the party tomorrow, she has given up swimming on either a tuesday or thursday afternoon because of school, so knows its important.

Will tell DH off for lying to the TA (teacher isnt in today or tomorrow) and let her enjoy it.

Just me feeling that I should have stood my ground, but on the other hand, this is the first ever birthday party she has been invited to.

Oh Jarm, I have NO compunction in condoning time off in R for ANYTHING!! we took the piss really

Now we just don;t go at all...

yanbu obviously!

She is little and I hope she enjoys her party.

A lot of people give under fives the occassional day off if they are really tired in reception. I fail to see the difference.

I think its wrong to lie to the teacher. Its not as if you are breaking the law.

It's not something I would do, but each to their own

I would go to the party and not worry about it. I wouldn't have lied in front of the child though as I am guessing you expect the child not to lie?

I used to work in a school in nursery and reception and they mostly just play all day anyway. I would have not really told the child that she was missing school as she would probably of assumed it was not a school day if this was not mentioned and tehrefore wouldn't know that she "skipped school"?

have you asked your child? surely she wants to be at school with her friends rather than at party of boy only just turning 3? or take her for the first hour then leave.

I am really surprised at this thread. I think pre-school is a different matter and I had no problem with letting dd miss sessions there - but as far as I'm concerned school is different. It just wouldn't have occurred to me to let dd miss a day at school because of a party. It just feels really wrong to me. Still, I'm happy to be in the minority .

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