to be a bit cheesed off! (my first AIBU so please be gentle.)

[slightlycrumpled]

Sent out ds's party invitations to school last week. They have a very small number of children in the class and therefore we invited all of them. He has only just started school so he doesn't know all of them really well.

Had one mum say her child was unable to come as his birthday is the same day. I said thats a shame and thought no more about it.

Found out today that the other child is now having a party on the same day as ds, and has also invited the same children ds has.

Bearing in mind my child's invitations went out a week ago I just think this is a little odd. Had the other child's invitiations gone out first I would have changed ds's party.

Please be gentle with me as this is my very first AIBU post. I am also aware that I may be BU but DS has started school on a full statement of special needs and I'm very slightly sensitive.

Oh at her house! Could it be that she's a bit dippy and didn't realise? I would be annoyed as well in those circumstances.

It is a bit unreasonable of her. However we are currently organising a party for dd and have had to organise things in advance of giving out invites as she has family coming from a long way and they need to organise time off work.

twinset, if that is the case for her then I do understand. What I don't understand is why she didn't explain to me as I am not adverse to the idea of changing the day/ time.

We even spoke in the playground yesterday and she didn't mention the party for her child.

Possibly cornsilk is right and she is dippy!

Seems like she has as much to gain from combining parties or changing the date as you then, if you have now accounted for 7 of the 11 children in the class.

If I were the other mum I would have spoken to you tbh.