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to not want my mother's breasts in my face????

57 replies

sosowrong · 09/09/2008 15:49

Ok, I am seriously angry about this and have to share. Have namechanged through sheer embarassment as am mates with some mnetters in RL.

Long story short, I have been b/feeding DS for 12 weeks now. My mother has always had a problem with it - thinks it's wrong, dirty, disgustintg etc. Anyway, she's been staying with us for a week, constantly commenting on what a dirty mummy I am for "rubbing my breasts in DS' face" - basically encouraging him to latch on.

Yesterday evening I was dozing on the sofa and was woken up by something brushing my face - I opened my eyes and my mother was crouched by the sofa rubbibng her bare breasts in my face!!!! "Now you know how DS feels, iy's horrible isn't it??" she said.

I still feel sick to the pit of my stomach thinking about it. She's always been a bit mental but this, she's crossed a real line. I can't bear to be around her now.

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StealthPolarBear · 09/09/2008 16:00

She is very odd. Not even sure where I would start. How would she take a "this is what I'm doing, butt (and boobs) out" type conversation.

Aitch · 09/09/2008 16:01

out the door.

bloomingfedup · 09/09/2008 16:01

I'm sorry but I have just LOL - is your mother a biscuit short of a tin or what?

leothelioness · 09/09/2008 16:03

If this is for real please please tell your mum to leave now and don't let her back in until she is ready to apologise. If she does not like to see you bf then tell her not to look

Cammelia · 09/09/2008 16:05

Chicken oriental

Dropdeadfred · 09/09/2008 16:06

OMG.....

wehaveallbeenthere · 09/09/2008 16:07

I think it is time to find some professional help for your mother...because she is your mother and you care. If she does this openly, there could be other things she is doing that you don't know about.
Since this isn't the only thing she has done (you cited other things over the years) she may have a condition that needs to be addressed. The sooner the better.
I can understand her having her own opinion but carrying it to this end is a red flag that you should take immediate notice of. Good luck on it.

Sycamoretree · 09/09/2008 16:14

Listen, if this isn't a troll, then there's just no hope for your mum and no good can come of her being around you and your LO, so give her the old heave ho.

But I just think you can't really make this shit up - so apologies if this is true, but the sheer level of incredulity on this thread so far should give you an indication of how absurd this is.

2beornot2be · 09/09/2008 16:17

SPEECHLESS...................

spugs · 09/09/2008 16:59

grim

hecate · 09/09/2008 17:03

Then don't be around her. You don't owe her anything. Tell her to fuck right off. You've no duty to keep someone in your life who behaves in a way you find so appalling.

rrrayray · 09/09/2008 17:04

This is unreal. I cannot believe your mother would force her views onto you in such a manner, whether she agrees about it or not.

More to the point, how uneducated is she? Breast milk is more sterile than bottled milk Can ever possibly be, however careful you are.

Not to mention the numerous benefits listed for bubba.

Good on you For breastfeeding.

Is it worth having a word with someone who is a step back from the situation & getting them to tell her just how out of order she is being? Your OH? Your Father? One of her brother/sisters (Your Aunts/Uncles)

Sending you LOTS of hugs. Hope you can stay Strong - its YOUR child to mother how YOU want.

Lauriefairycake · 09/09/2008 17:05

if this is true (and it's so fucking awful i wish it's someone taking the piss)

then she needs help and you need to stay away from her and keep your lovely son away from her.

That is seriously sick and twisted behaviour.

wotulookinat · 09/09/2008 17:12

God I hope this is a joke thread.

zippitippitoes · 09/09/2008 17:14

if she is crouching down how does she get breasts in your face while you are sat on the sofa

TheNaughtiestGirlIsaMonitor · 09/09/2008 17:17

You poor thing, your mother sounds completely cracked.

I wouldn't assume it's definitely a wind up, as I know a woman of 37 whose mother, roughly 62 feels this way. She kept saying things like "you're not still do that disgusting brrrrrrrrrrreast milking are you?"

Charlee · 09/09/2008 17:17

OMG i would seriously deck my mother if she did this to me - how gross! She's your mother fog god sake that is moraly wrong! If a mother did that to a young child (not of bfing age) it could be classed as sexual abuse.

Chequers · 09/09/2008 17:17

Yuck.

Zippi, says she was dozing on the sofa, assume she was lying down. That's how I nap on the sofa anyway.

Spagblog · 09/09/2008 17:20

Tell her to leave your home and not to contact you until you have forgiven her.

jalopy · 09/09/2008 18:10

Yawn

MinkyBorage · 09/09/2008 18:18

I feel violated on your behalf! YUCK!!!!!

hansnava · 09/09/2008 18:27

im sorry but my first instinct was to laugh at this.
after i had stopped laughing i thought about it, if that was me and my mum did that after getting over the sheer horror of seeing my mums breasts i dont think i would be able to look at her the same again. i know for a fact that i wouldnt have her in the same house as me or my dc.
if she doesnt respect the way that u choose to care for ds then tell her to keep her distance.

WorzselMummage · 09/09/2008 18:27

I think this has just won the 'most fucked up post of the year' award.

I'd so odd i am not even sure i believe it !

Original poster
sosowrong · 09/09/2008 19:14

Thanks everyone, I'm glad it's not just me that finds this horrifying.

Struggling with what to do next, I know you think I should all stay away from her but no-one else in the family wants anything to do with her and we're all she has left. Will talk to DP about what to do next.

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Kimi · 09/09/2008 19:19

Shes a nut job....walk away