to think that if you live on a 2nd floor flat in an old building YOU TAKE YOUR FRIGGING SHOES OFF WHEN CLOMPING AROUND THE HOUSE?!

[Bumperlicious]

Sorry for the caps, I'm just at the end of my tether. All we hear from upstairs is CLOMP CLOMP CLOMP of the cow upstairs as she thunders around her flat in her shoes ALL DAY! I mean, who even wears shoe around the house all day?!

The thing is, we wrote a note about 2 weeks back politely complaining at being woken at 3 in the morning several weekends in a row as she clomped into her bedroom and chucked her shoes on the floor, in the middle of the frigging night!

Anyway, I wrote a polite note just saying, "oh I'm sure you didn't realise how noisy it can be, but we can hear you in your shoes the whole length of our flat and a few weekends you have woken us up at 3am. Do you mind not doing it" type thing, very polite and friendly, and she came down and was in a real huff that we had written a note and not gone in person (we don't know her, I thought a note was the more polite non-confrontational option, and I am too much of a wuss to do it in person), so anyway she got in a huff about that and didn't apologise, just said "well, when you moved in and your baby woke us up in the night we never complained". Well, what can we do, she's a baby?! And she was only under their bedroom for about a month and doesn't disturb them now.

Despite all this, or because of all this, she is still clomping around in her frigging heels up and down her flat. It feels like she might be doing it to spite us now. It's so annoying, all bloody weekend. AIBU to expect her to take her shoes off when she knows she is disturbing her neighbours underneath?

Middle of the night that was

I live in another Victorian conversion. Our upstairs neighbours invited us up for drinks a couple of weeks ago, they had wooden floors put in some weeks previously and were worried that the noise of them clumping about was bothering us. We were able to assure them that we could barely hear anything from their flat. We play our music fairly loudly, and were surprised that they could not hear it either - I guess the conversion was properly done.

I wonder if surveys should include an assessment of soundproofing. I don't think it reasonable to insist that your neighbours don't wear shoes indoors. It is not their fault the conversion was done badly.

oh, i'd rather have clunking shoes than ANYONE'S fucking music.

that is the one thing that drives me completely round the twist.

fair enough expat - but they are the only neighbours who might be bothered by it and we never had sound turned up when early or late.

Now it turns out they can't hear anything anyway, we've relaxed about it In a previous flat we had both crap pumping music and lots of squeals, shrieks and footsteps from party animals above us. We moved out, it wasn't worth the agro.

i'm sitting here now listening to stomping neighbours and drives me spare but its there house when they blare ther emusic and jump deliberatly on the floor then i want to go and rip there heads off

but i can hear every step but i have to try and block it out as most of the time they dont even have shoes on its just very loud no sound proofingb at all

i can understand your frustration fully but unless its midnight and they are blaring music you have to try and be accomodating and understanding

i remember incident my ds was really ill and had trouble settling him they had blaring music and io let it go as was within time restriction and at 12 had had enough so went upstairs and asked nicely could they please turn it down as ds was ill took 15 mins but they eventually did it my ds was 2

there dc 10 and 12 my dp was playing music at 4 pm and no sooner had it gone on bang bang on door could we turn music down as dd was in bed

there dc keep us awake till 11 at night playing music and stomping around jumping on floor etc sometimes you just have to bite your tongue and accept the situation you are in we have to for sure

i now know all the words to most the kids cd's and sing myself to sleep with them at night lol

bubblagirl, bumperlicious - could you perhaps work with your neighbours to put in insulation or soundproofing between your flats?

no way of doing it as flats are old victorian was once a doctors surgery adn there is no way of doing anything at all walls are so paper thin you can hear people in other flats rowing

just one of them things we have to grin and bare until we can afford to move from here