to think my sister has gone mad?

[pippylongstockings]

The situation is this my sister does indulge her PFB some-what - fair enough she has the money to spend on fancy clothes, alot of toys, crazy priced activities. She treats it as every day has to be like a holiday making his childhood the best ever. She has professional photo's done that are blown up into huge pictures and given to all for presents.

I do try to gently reminder her that as he is 2.6 he wont remember any of this and can she really keep it up for the other's.

However this morning she has really shocked me.
We were playing at her house my DS2 had a 'baby doll' he loves, he DS (PFB) also has a 'baby doll' - Her DS walks in with a 'baby' - She says 'Oh no, T give that back to W it's his toy'

Her DS runs off crying and my realises that her DS had his own toy - so she runs after him and says....
'Mummy's sorry she was wrong. Do you hate Mummy? Do you want to hit mummy ? Do you hate Mummy? Here you are hit Mummy!' and holds out her hand for him to hit her!!!
She then goes and gets some sweets from the cupboard for 'Being such a horrible mummy'

And returns to the table like nothing has happened - I am flabberghasted that she would put herself down like this to a 2 yo and encourage him to hit her.

It's just odd.

..was about to ask if she was always like this but sounds like both you and your mum thinks she has lost the plot.

also think she is storing up problems - the smacking thing is just bizarre

Who is in charge here? What will it be like when he's 17 and she won't buy him a car? Let your parents have the 'you're making a rod for your own back' conversation as she probably won't take it well from you.

All for saying sorry and 'silly mummy' but 'do you want to hit mummy?' - wowser, that is beeezarre.

Do you think she might have some kind of depression? Sounds to me like she has issues with her relationship with her DS, and is maybe insecure in her parenting skills?

Hmm. I don't know.

It sounds a leetle bit like she's read some good advice and not quite got it.

SO things like..

'Are you angry with me? I bet you must feel so cross with me! If someone had taken something of mine (I know) then I would be so annoyed too! You look like you want to hit somethign!' Blah blah.

But misinterpretted,
'Are you angry with me? You are so cross with me! You must hate mummy right now, do you want to hit out? do you want to hit mummy? Hit mummy, go on. I'd be cross too if I were you.'

My point is maybe she is trying to help her child but missing it a bit.