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To expect my sister to not act like she's the first and last pregnant woman on earth

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notsoteenagemum · 06/09/2008 00:40

Just got back from family 'do' with sister who is 23 weeks pg. What a bloody fuss she was sat surrounded by cushions while her DP fetched like a dog. The minute the convo turned off her she would wince- why who knows.
To make matters worse her in-laws were there and she was being pathetic saying how she thought birth repulsive and how he would have to take the baby for 9 months after.
Her DP is on a v.good wage and has said she can give up work but she has made a huge fuss about how she has to work and how anything less than 30 hours is part-time. This is just how many hours y new job is and I have the DC's when I get home.

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twinsetandpearls · 06/09/2008 00:56

Is it her first pregnancy, I think you are being a little bit unreeasonable. If women are ever allowed divadom it must be during their first pregancy.

Saturn74 · 06/09/2008 01:01

Sounds like she was just lapping up the attention while she can.

cornsilk · 06/09/2008 01:02

You are being a bit mean.

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notsoteenagemum · 06/09/2008 01:03

I can forgive her for being excited and giddy and gushy but for just having a moan when she is healthy, I fnd too much, she is using it a a controlling tool which I find hard to stomach.
Would you honestly say you felt after ( months your job was done?

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notsoteenagemum · 06/09/2008 01:03

9 months

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cornsilk · 06/09/2008 01:04

She won't feel like that when she actually gives birth though.

twinsetandpearls · 06/09/2008 01:05

I was going to say the same as cornsilk. Was it not just banter?

BlackEyedDog · 06/09/2008 01:09

sounds like she just got on your norks tonight.

My sis was a lot like this, had us all running around carrying her bags for her etc. It was only after I had my own child I realised what a twittish diva she had been

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notsoteenagemum · 06/09/2008 01:11

Lets hope so! I just feel well there's enjoying the attention and anticipation, and then there is just milking it. When there are lots of people who would love to be in her position she should at least try and sound like its not a total incovenience.

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aaaarrrgh · 06/09/2008 09:08

ooo one of my mates is doing this....really getting on my nerves!

Feel for you!

bloomingfedup · 06/09/2008 09:10

YABU. Let your sister enjoy and act like a diva - she has a shock ahead.

RubySlippers · 06/09/2008 09:11

she may be having a rough pregnancy

her DH may like looking after her

why shouldn't she have some attention on her? It won;t last!

lulumama · 06/09/2008 09:13

all first time mums, pretty much , act like the first and last pregnant woman on earth. some milk it more than others. it is a glorious time, you are in awe of your body and what it has done and created.. a bit of floating aroudn being demanding is to be expected...

if she does it second time, then you can be ticked off..

for now , smile sweetly. and ignore

lulumama · 06/09/2008 09:13
RubySlippers · 06/09/2008 09:16

yjjhg

lulumama · 06/09/2008 09:17

good !

bythepowerofgreyskull · 06/09/2008 09:18

yabu - for her this is the biggest thing that has ever happened. As it is for all of us first time round.
don't let it wind you up. just let her get on with it.

schneebly · 06/09/2008 09:21

When I was pg with my DS1 I had no other topic of conversation and used to come home from work and go for 'my nap'

Oh how it all changed when I was pg with DS2 just 8 months after DS1 was born...

Chuffinnora · 06/09/2008 09:23

My SiL was like this and now has the only baby ever to be born... despite evidence to the contrary.
Also my brother tends to hint that he loves his DS more than I could ever love my 2 children .
He doesn't realise that I just don't talk about it constantly.

AbbeyA · 06/09/2008 09:36

I think that it is very common. No doubt you won't be allowed to see the baby for the first 3 weeks so that she has time to get over the birth and 'bond'.

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notsoteenagemum · 06/09/2008 09:37

Its the way she talks about the baby as if it's an inconvenience- when it moves its gross, the birth is gross, she goes to work-it's too tiring, her DP really wants her to give up but she's not being tied down, bfing ties her to the baby. I could cope with her lying around and bossing everyone about if she was really excited but I wonder why she actually decided to have one in the first place.

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MaloryDontDiveItsShallow · 06/09/2008 09:40

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TotalChaos · 06/09/2008 09:40

i can understand you being frustrated by her being a bit of a silly bint, but YABU about the comments that she should give up work.

Bumperlicious · 06/09/2008 09:47

I was miserable when I was pg, despite it all being planned, I found the movements gross and annoying when I was at work, was in a complete grump about how having a baby was going to change my life, was uncomfortable, tired basically just a whingebag!

Everything will be different when she actually has the baby, just let her get on with it it.

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notsoteenagemum · 06/09/2008 09:49

Total No don't think she should give up work. She does not HAVE to work, she's complaining that works too tiring and she struggles but when offered the chance of reducing her hours or giving up completly she moans.
I'm not against working mums in any way I'm a Mum and I work before anyone starts flaming me!!

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