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To dress DS (7) in girls clothes. On purpose??

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ParCark · 04/09/2008 19:38

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MarmadukeScarlet · 04/09/2008 22:27

DDs dressing up rail

chipmonkey · 04/09/2008 22:36

Yeah, Marmaduke, you'll get away with that in Waitrose but I wouldn't risk it in LIDL!
BTWm, dressing up rail? Are you posh?

solidgoldbrass · 05/09/2008 00:34

If you wanted to, and were bored or something, you could consider the implications of why it's so much less acceptable for a boy to have girl things than a girl to have boy things. Because, basically, at the root of it, is a belief that female is inferior to male, so it's understandable that the inferior female wants to have the things of the superior male, but worrying and wrong for the superior male to want to imitate the inferior female....

I'll get my coat.

Tortington · 05/09/2008 00:36

get him a barbie princess and call him sandra

yanbu

S1ur · 05/09/2008 00:39

Well quite SolidG, a tomboy is a reasonable character non? But what is the equivilent?

I think there is a LOT more stigma attached to a boy dressed in girls clothes than a girl dressed in boys clothes.

And I don't mean you have to go far down line into skirts and dresses, let's stick to colour, A boy in pink? A girl in blue (or bold reds/greens)?

S1ur · 05/09/2008 00:40
berolina · 05/09/2008 00:50

you're not wrong sgb. I had someone quite literally recoil from me and 7-week-old, pink-sleepsuited ds1 when she heard me refer to him as 'he'.

I don't dress my dses in 'girls'' clothes, but most of them could be worn by either sex without causing eyebrow-raising. Lots of stripes, fairly cheerful colours, neutral pictures if at all. When out and about, they are unfailingly referred to as girls - because, I suspect, they are not dressed in the boy uniform of dingy colours - extremely short hair - sporty/martial/here-comes-trouble-type ikages.

berolina · 05/09/2008 00:51

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Swedes · 05/09/2008 00:56

Most nights I put my (male) baby to bed in pink pyjamas. In colder weather I also dress him in tights under his clothes (socks are useless and fall off). DS1 (who is 16 said he will end up being one of those blokes who wears silky women's knickers under his polyester suit to go to work at the bank. Then I told him, he too was dressed in tights in the colder months.

berolina · 05/09/2008 01:09

oh German boys all wear tights, up to school age and beyond. Tis fab. (Wish they did decent warm ladies' tights in Germany, mind you).

Bonifacio · 05/09/2008 06:20

I think its only (some) men who seem to have the issue with boys wearing girls clothes. Our nephew who is 3 went through a phase of loving handbags, so my sil bought him a little one, BIL and DP were not happy and DP spent hours taking the mickey out of BIL for having a child who is obviously going to end up gay I did tell DP afterwards that when / if we have DS of our own he will go through exactly the same phase so shouldn't have been too quick to take the mickey out of BIL as now he will have it all to come. Does any of that make sense, I think I rambled

So YANBU so long as they don't look like girls clothes I don't see a problem. You can always cut the label out if it is pink and sparkly!

DN also went through a phase of loving babies and pushchairs, so SIL bought him a lovely pink pushchair and doll! DN is now only interested in anything to do with elecrical appliances DP and BIL are much happier!!

MarmadukeScarlet · 05/09/2008 10:29

mutt no he's reception age.

chipmonkey a little but I used to be the wardrobe mistress in a drama group and I'm a bit handy so much of it is homemade.

I buy bright fleeces in charity shops (no hems needed) and turn them into things and orange one into a pumpkin, a bright pink one into a complete fizz outfit made flowers out of stick on white felt, a yellow one into a chick etc. Many old ball gowns that have been altered.

LOL @lidl, Waitrose is my nearest shop

notsoteenagemum · 05/09/2008 10:50

Not unless they look girly or are worn by all the other girls in the class coz that might leave him open to a bit of teasing.
If they are the skinny type go for it though emo is unisex.
DS's fave colour is pink btw.

Salleroo · 05/09/2008 10:55

I bought some great little brown cords for the ds I was convinced I was going to have and out popped my dd.

She wears them all the time and has them on today. They are funky little trousers and a change from pink. Was just thinking earlier that boys jeans are so much cooler and without hideous embroidery and sequins so I'll buy her more boys jeans as she grows.

Go for it!

almostblue · 05/09/2008 11:09

Another thing that's quite interesting to do, again, if you're bored and have a minute or two, is research the history of 'pink for girls and blue for boys'.

'Tis a fairly recent convention, actually; although, I suspect, deeper entrenched now than the reverse ever was - thanks largely to commercial pressures...

DaphneMoon · 05/09/2008 11:21

My DS moaned at me the other day because I bought some new white t-shirts for PE, they had a zip instead of buttons and he said only girls wore pe tops with zips on! I had to get the catalogue out to show him that they were actually on the boy's page!

florenceuk · 05/09/2008 11:39

actually girl's trews are slimmer cut than boys - DD and DS not much different in shape but it is much easier to find her trews that don't bunch around the waist. So if you have skinny DS seems like a good idea to me!

My DD sees her brother's hand-me-downs as a special treat to wear - including his knickers!

PinkyDinkyDooToo · 06/09/2008 22:04

YANBU.

I am now thinking maybe I should buy girls trousers for DS1, he is very skinny

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