To not want this woman to come on a night out with me and my friend?

[shoot]

It's mine and my best friend's birthday within a few days of each other, so she wants us to have a night out together. We never get to go on nights out because we both have young babies and our DPs work all the time.

So she got all excited at the prospect and started talking about us shopping for our outfits in the day time, and going out at the night , drinking at one of our houses first then going to the pubs and then to a club. We haven't done it for so long (about a year and a half since I last went out) it sounds great to me.

I asked if it was ok for me to invite our other friend who has a baby the same age as mine as she'd asked if she could come on our next night out. She said yes that's fine.

Then she said she'd invite a girl who we went to school with who's not a very nice person but I said that's fine.

Next thing she wanted to invite a girl who absolutely despises me. I don't know why, really, but she even refuses to serve me in the club she works in. She REALLy hates me. I said no, I'd go on a different night out with her when that girl wouldn't be there.

But she was like 'No, no, no don't do that. I want us all to go out together. Oh please.'

So have I GOT to go out with this girl? She;s even tried to start on me on nights out before and I'm not a fighter at all. i just like to keep myself to myself and have a laugh with my friends.

Your best friend thinks this girl is a social embarrassment. She knows that the girl dislikes you intensely and will try to ruin the evening for you. So she is inviting her why?? And in what way do you consider that she is your best friend??

Just tell your bf that, if this girl is going, then you won't because you don't see the point in going somewhere that you know you won't enjoy and where someone will be deliberately trying to ruin your evening for you. If she protests, just ask her why she would think that you would want to.

Id rather spend the night alone that go out in fear of being intimidated.

Tbh, your friend doesnt sound like much of a friend.

I'd just cancel on bf and go out with your friend with the baby to somewhere you know they wont be. I've got a 'friend' who i don't like (one of those i was close to at school but we are totally different people now) we went out as a group last year after years of not seeing each other and she was a loud, aggressive idiot and even told my fiancee he would be better off with her. We left her in the club and went else where. Now when shes invited out with us i make my excuses and go out with other friends.