To leave my DD playing with a stranger for 20 minutes, while I sit at the side of the pool and chat?

[Aimsmum]

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No I don't think.

She wasn't in any danger.

No I don't think so

YANBU if the man offered to play with her and seemed to be enjoying it. If he got tired of playing he probably would have told your dd that he needed a rest.

No. It sounds like your DD had a nice time, and he sounds like a nice friendly man. You could see what was happening, and didn't let her go out of sight with him.

Would you have felt differently if he had been an old lady?

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< sigh >

This is a sad indictment of our world these days.

Paedos and sickos on every corner, just waiting to harm our children!

She was in your sight wasn't she, its not like he took her off somewhere.

There is nothing to be concerned about here.

yanbu

he was a friendly man playing with a child in a pool with mother there watching

where is the risk?

I go with the view that 99.9999999% of people are good, to live any other way is going down the road to madness imo

I didn't pick up at all that this was a child abuser in every pool thread. I thought it was a taking advantage of the kindness of strangers thread. Am I thick or is everyone else paranoid?

yanbu aimsmum, sorry about your friend's bad news
I agree with other posters so far that it's a good thing to let your dcs talk to other adults in appropriate public settings
Dd had a great game going with a friendly grandpa in the playground yesterday (involving a circuit and a high-five)

It probably made his day being able to play a nice game with a lovely little girl.

No unreasonable. Your DD was perfectly fine and enjoying herself. The man offered and I imagine would have said he needed a rest if he got bored. He probably had quite a nice time too And you were on hand if your DD needed you anyway.

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I wouldnt worry about it, if he hadnt wanted too he would have made an excuse and swam away.

Sounds fine to me. You were right there and he seemed to enjoy the playing. So YANBU at all.

He probably enjoyed it.

I am forever depositing DD with some clucky old lady or man when I want to browse in a shop. Good for their social development, and someone who loves kids but doesn't happen to have any in their life gets the warm fuzzies.

Everything was fine. It sounds like you ALL, you, your dd, your friend and this man, ALL had a nice time.
The ONLY shame in this whole scenario, is the fact that you doubted it. And had to start a thread to ask for our confirmation that what happened was o.k.
Have faith mum. You are doing a fab job !!

I agree with Oblomov. Everyone was happy.In similar situations when mine were younger, I would sometimes intervene after a while just to check that the other person wasnt desperately trying to get away but was too polite to say so (particularly with dd2 who would virtually accost strangers in the street and strike up lengthy dialogue!!). But in this particular case, the OP needed to talk to her friend about a worrying situation, and as the old man seemed happy, I dont see the problem.

The man offered! It sounds like he probably rather enjoyed himself. Sounds quite sweet all round really, and allowed you to be there for your friend.

No, this was normality when I was young, now everyone is so scared of something happening its silly, we live in a quiet col de sac and none of the kids ever play out anymore which is quite sad really.

The old man was probably lonely or missing his grandkids and your dd wasnt in any danger as you were sat there.

Good for you

of course yanbu
We should give ourselves breaks from our children and let our children know it's totally acceptable to play with other adults. Otherwise we will all go mad with the stress of helicoptering

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