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AIBU?

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Original poster

in thinking 7 is too old for a child to be in a pushchair with a baby's bottle of milk???

52 replies

glaskhamhasoneintheoven · 26/08/2008 18:17

next-door neighbours child is fully able bodied, is always running round the garden, up and dopwn the street etc, so i know there is nothing wrong with her. I know her son is 7yo at least as in the early summer i heard her mother saying he was ''only 7yo ffs'' to the older child when she'd caught them playing with matches in the garden...

this afternoon i saw her leaving the house with him in a pushchair and had a baby's bottle with milk in it too!! She's also knocked on my door asking if my kids had any 'spare dummy's for her kids to get to sleep'....

am i the only one who thinks he's way too old for this???

OP posts:
EyeballsintheSky · 26/08/2008 18:39

LOL, you lot are amazing. Just when I think I know what the responses will be....

No, you are NBU. Seven is far to old to be in a puschchair with a bottle. I feel Judgy McJudgy today.

KerryMum · 26/08/2008 18:42

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Original poster
glaskhamhasoneintheoven · 26/08/2008 18:43

thanks EBINS- i thought i knew what the response would be too!!.... dont really think i'd have asked if i didn't!!

OP posts:
Clary · 26/08/2008 18:48

oh no

nonononono not going there

MrsMattie · 26/08/2008 18:51

Not this again

2shoes · 26/08/2008 18:53

was the child poorly and on the way to the doctors, and the bottle was to releive the pain? the buggy as the poor chid was so poorly it couldn't walk.

ok probally not but thought I would try it

FluffyMummy123 · 26/08/2008 18:53

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LadyThompson · 26/08/2008 18:59

The kid could've had a bad back. Who knows? Who cares? I had a dummy until I was 4, because I wanted one, and my Mum wasn't all that uptight (Mums were like that, it was the 70s). I've got straight teeth, and no desire to suck one now, not even to get to sleep. Although....

LadyThompson · 26/08/2008 19:02

Or maybe he was a method actor, researching a role.

Hennyways, there could be any number of explanations, but as long as the kid doesn't seem to be being abused, I say bin the curtain twitching and let's all suck up a bit of live and let live.

FluffyMummy123 · 26/08/2008 19:03

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jimjamshaslefttheyurt · 26/08/2008 19:05

I don't think your average 7 year old would tolerate being in a buggy with a bottle.

Therefore I would assume SN.

DS1 can run and jump and scale 8 foot walls. He's still severely disabled. Some people with children like him have taken the buggy route (I wish we had actually but that's a different story).

FluffyMummy123 · 26/08/2008 19:05

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CrushWithEyeliner · 26/08/2008 19:08

I would be a bit but never judge the Woman - people do what is right for them and their children

lljkk · 26/08/2008 19:14

It sounds weird, but so what if it is weird? Is nobody allowed to be different any more?

LittleBella · 26/08/2008 19:30

Actually putting him in a pushchair with a bottle of milk could be abuse... it could be a form of humiliating punishment.

OTOH, he (or she, the OP is slightly incoherent on this point) might want to be in the buggy for some reason, in which case it isn't abuse. It might be pandering, which some mumsnetters find so intolerable. Or as others have said, there might be some SN issues.

Or he might be an alien baby, that is also true. Or a cyber baby. Or something.

MuthaHubbard · 26/08/2008 19:57

When my dd (6) goes to my mums, they play with her old fold-up trolley. DD pushes her dolls in it and eventually persuades my mum to push her around in it. She even asked her if she could go to the shop in the trolley - but asked if any of her friends would see her first!!

QuintessentialShadow · 26/08/2008 20:02

I took my 5 year old in a buggy. Twice. Once he had a really deep splinter and I took him to the minor injuries to get some help. This was less than an hour after he had been playing around quite happily. Once I took him to the doctor, as he was really poorly and could barely walk. If you were to look at him on both occasions, he were just fine.

If you were my judgey neighbour, you would be on here like a shot asking if Aibu. Glad you werent.

QuintessentialShadow · 26/08/2008 20:02

I took my 5 year old in a buggy. Twice. Once he had a really deep splinter and I took him to the minor injuries to get some help. This was less than an hour after he had been playing around quite happily. Once I took him to the doctor, as he was really poorly and could barely walk. If you were to look at him on both occasions, he were just fine.

If you were my judgey neighbour, you would be on here like a shot asking if Aibu. Glad you werent.

QuintessentialShadow · 26/08/2008 20:03

sorry about double posting

narkymum · 26/08/2008 20:07

Maybe instead of judging ,you could help her onto the road of perfect parenting?

lilymolly · 26/08/2008 20:10

Oh I am happy to judge

Sounds fecking stupid behaviour if you ask me

So No YANBU at all

Janni · 26/08/2008 20:12

Could be a game. The child 'playing' at being a baby and the mother facilitating his imaginary play (because she read on MN how important this is).

I stopped DD having her dummy at 3.5 and she now constantly has her fingers in her mouth, so what do I know?

SlartyBartFast · 26/08/2008 20:19

how did he fit?

JuneBugJen · 26/08/2008 20:22

OMG, get him out of there and rip that bottle away too.
Sorry, feeling judgy but WTF!!!

SlartyBartFast · 26/08/2008 20:23

perhaps it was breast milk expresssed