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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think that Dadsnet should be for dads

24 replies

beanieb · 26/08/2008 14:11

not for women to ask variations of the same question about porn/single mums and how attractive a dating prospect they are/making teh first move/ presents to buy etc?

It irritates me and I am not even a bloke. Maybe I am alone in this but if I were a bloke I'd be fed up of all these women coming over to try and ask advice as if we are somehow alien species!

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kerryk · 26/08/2008 14:12

does that mean you also dont want dads on mumsnet?

MatNanPlus · 26/08/2008 14:12

i answer on there but i hadn't thought to ask a question TBH.

kerryk · 26/08/2008 14:12

have to say i cant see the problem at all.

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beanieb · 26/08/2008 14:14

I dunno - I don't mind dads on mumsnet at all but how often do you get dads over here saying 'Hi girls, I need your advice, can you tell me if you'd ever consider having a relationship with a man with kids?'

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zippitippitoes · 26/08/2008 14:15

well that would be a bit divisive i mean pregnancy can have posts by anyone which anyone can respond to

for example

i dont suppose dads only want to talk to men and anyway they like to feel valued for their expertise lolol

zippitippitoes · 26/08/2008 14:16

men do say hi im a new dad how can make my wife enjoy the first few weeks with the new baby she seems to be finding it hard

and etc

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beanieb · 26/08/2008 14:19

ah well, just me then! I pop over there when I see a thread come up in the active conversations and it just seems like the blokes don't post much at all about what they are into and if they do - all theu=ir threads are pushed to the bottom by women asking advice.

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narkymum · 26/08/2008 14:20

em... news flash men don`t usually ask advice!

Original poster
beanieb · 26/08/2008 14:21

lol at Narkymum.

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coppertop · 26/08/2008 14:22

But isn't that like saying mumsnet should just be for mums?

2shoes · 26/08/2008 14:25

I always thought it was blokes on there. I posted on there once as ds wanted opions, I got answers from women maily. very nice but not what I expected.
bit like any topic really. when I post in teens, I do it to get answes/advice from people with teens, not 2 year olds. but how can you stop people?

zippitippitoes · 26/08/2008 14:26

i dont know about pushed to the btm as i dont look at topics

but you suggesting i shouldnt ask on dadsnet about my love life lolol

VictorianSqualor · 26/08/2008 14:28

YABU, If someone wants mainly men's opinions then they'll go to the part of the board they expect more men to read.It's not like posting about trainers and socks in post-natal which are totally unrelated.

cestlavie · 26/08/2008 14:32

Actually, as a guy I really don't care. I use/ have used the main MN for the vast majority of advice (e.g. sleep, behaviour) because you want the broadest number of comments possible and it doesn't matter whether they're from mums or dads. I'd use Dadsnet only if there was something I wanted to know that only dads could answer like, um, um, um, what lap times do you need on Mariokart Wii Star Cup to race as Bowser or how can I make the house appear as though it's been cleaned when DW is due to arrive home in seven minutes...

Shitehawk · 26/08/2008 14:38

By your logic, though, beanieb, Mumnset should only be for mums ... and yet men are more than welcome here.

Who cares who posts where?

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beanieb · 26/08/2008 14:40

maybe I phrsed it badly. I wasn't meaning to say women shouldn't post there, or that men shouldn't post on mumsnet. Just that there only ever seem to be threads started by women rather than by men. I know there are some threads by men but they seem to get overshadowed by women using dadsnet to ask men advice on how to improve their relationships.

Perhaps we should just have 'parentsnet' tee hee.
?

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Original poster
beanieb · 26/08/2008 14:41

phrased.

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VictorianSqualor · 26/08/2008 14:58

cestlavie, in answer to your second question, vacuum downstairs, run around with a duster (polish smell = clean house) and wipe any sides in the kitchen, if there is washing up, put it in the sink with hot soapy water and stand by the kettle as she gets in, then say I was just about to make tea want one? Whilst you start the washing up, she won't even notice you're washing up, just be grateful for the tea

cestlavie · 26/08/2008 15:30

VS: I can't begin to tell you how little that would fool DW!

VictorianSqualor · 26/08/2008 15:39

But it would look better than you being sat on MN asking how to fool her, non?

BouncingTurtle · 26/08/2008 15:55

Cestlavie - and the answer to your second question, is lap time under 55s.

Actually I'm lying, I haven't a clue!

MarioKart rocks, BTW.

Beanieb - I think YABU. If it bothered the dads who populated dadsnet, then they would say something.

cestlavie · 26/08/2008 15:56

Ah, that was a hypothetical question such as might be posed by someone. I personally would never contemplate such underhand behaviour and indeed take pleasure in ensuring that the house is as clean my wonderful DW likes (ahem).

pamelat · 26/08/2008 20:23

Theres a dadsnet?! Cool. MY DH can moan about me on it!

onepieceoflollipop · 26/08/2008 20:32

There was a thread a while back on dadsnet from a "dad" or perhaps a troll asking for advice from other dads about sexual "techniks" Iirc he was outraged at some of the helpful replies we gave him, and the fact that as mere women we had intruded on that part of the board.

Was an interesting thread. - even made the round up I think.

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