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to expect not to be wolf whistled at when pregnant?

31 replies

GirlWithTheMouseyHair · 26/08/2008 13:46

I don't mind the normal plain old whistles or comments of "lovely smile" but do take exception to cries of "show us your tits" and men leering obviously out of white van windows (especially when I'm looking hideous, not even made an effort!) but now I'm 7 months pregnant and still getting this kind of attention and frankly it pisses me off - isn't it even more disrespectful to behave this way towards a pregnant woman - above the amount it's disrespectful anyway?!

btw not how I'm dressed - today I'm wearing trainers, jeans a top and a cardi (no cleavage) and still got leered at

grrrr

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Tittybangbang · 26/08/2008 13:48

Oh stop boasting!

ShittyCatsLawyer · 26/08/2008 13:48

ah yes i had that once when i was pregnant

very wedird actuiaally

zippitippitoes · 26/08/2008 13:48

thats what i thought

you are clearly stunning a cross you have to bear im afraid

MadreInglese · 26/08/2008 13:49

You should go out with a paper bag on your head, that should stop it

kama · 26/08/2008 13:49

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sophiajane · 26/08/2008 13:50

it is horrible and sleazy....also really unpleasant when it happens when you are pushing your child in a buggy...wtf?

msdemeanor · 26/08/2008 13:50

I was whistled at, smiled at and given the odd appreciative comment when I was pregnant first time (and...shhh...I blardly loved it!)
Now I'm a raddled old mum nobody ever notices me...sob.

MmeLindt · 26/08/2008 13:50

You are obviously not mousey then.

I got chatted up when I was 8 months pregnant, but I was wearing a big winter coat. DH said I should have went for a coffee with him just to see his face when I took my coat off and unveiled my bump.

BigGitDad · 26/08/2008 13:50

I think it is comforting that builders and the like are prepared to wolf whitle at all sorts these days. Maybe it's the credit crunch lowering their expectations somewhat...

MrsMattie · 26/08/2008 13:52

I am getting more looks from men now I'm pregnant than i did before. Very strange.

sophiajane · 26/08/2008 13:54

perhaps fecundity (is that right word?) gets some men going?

LadySanders · 26/08/2008 13:55

i got wolf whistled by builders while doing school run, heavily preg with ds2. i was delighted.

wouldn't like 'show us yer tits' at any time though!

GirlWithTheMouseyHair · 26/08/2008 13:56

aw you're all very sweet but i live in a crap south london area and the white van men leer at anything female, under no illusions I am a perfect stunner!

maybe I should change the title - whistles are fine, it's that nasty leering look and literally shouting "show us your tits" or "cum on my face" that I object to....just thought I'd be able to avoid that whilst pregnant!

looks from men generally whilst pregnant I agree is disconcerting but at least it's more curiosity than outright disrepect

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SheikYerbouti · 26/08/2008 13:56

I got asked out to dinner by the horrible sleazy man who used to own the local greengrocers. I was 7 months gone with DS2. I won't tell you what other requests he made

TheProvincialLady · 26/08/2008 13:56

I used to get lots of cars beeping and shouts when I was pg with DS....I used to watch them as they drove past me as the look on their face when they reached the front of me and noticed I was pregnant was hilarious

Whereas this time I am 'showing all round'[porker]

ShittyCatsLawyer · 26/08/2008 13:57

sheikh
me nad finbar
bath
autumn
duo boots session( her)
lunch and cofee and maybe a happy hour cocktail

where?

sophiajane · 26/08/2008 13:58

Jesus no one has ever said "cum on my face" to me in public (or private in recent years ) where the hell do you live???

SheikYerbouti · 26/08/2008 14:06

Firehouse is good for lunch as is the Walrus & Carpenter, Moon and Sixpence and Opa.

Cocktails, not a scooby my darling. I only ever go to old men's pubs

GirlWithTheMouseyHair · 26/08/2008 14:06

streatham....i hate white van drivers...builders tend to be a bit nicer (though "cheer up love" rightly pisses me off too!)

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sophiajane · 26/08/2008 14:08

"give us a smile" always makes me want to machine gun whatever creep asks for it

traceybath · 26/08/2008 14:16

nice bar in bath and just round the corner from duo

jamie oliver's new italian place should also be open in september - again just 2 mins from duo so very central

HonoriaGlossop · 26/08/2008 14:23

I was wolf whistled when pregnant

Just assumed they were taking the p* to be honest

or perhaps they really did find the puffy red face and varicose veins appealing?

GirlWithTheMouseyHair · 26/08/2008 16:57

to be honest i do think they are probably taking the piss too most of the time...either way it's annoying, maybe I'm just being naive thinking pregnancy would prevent this!

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combustiblelemon · 26/08/2008 17:03

Bleurghh Sheik. I hope you washed your veg thoroughly.

It's not really a preen moment to have 'Cum on my face' shouted at you regardless of the occupancy state of you womb.

MrsTittleMouse · 26/08/2008 17:08

A friend of mine was chatted up more when she was pregnant. I suppose that some men find that kind of thing attractive. DH is quite keen on me when I'm up the duff (shame we're not able to do much about it ). Strangers aren't that impressed by pregnant me though - the dark circles alone are enough to put them off.

I have never had anyone ask me to cum on their face, even when I was young and nubile and had impressive norkage.