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Original poster

to want to kill the little shits up the road

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2shoes · 23/08/2008 17:08

cos I have had enough,
it all started whith one calling dd a spaz(severe cp she has) ds broke off all contact.
in the last 2 years we have had verbal abuse, our house constantly egged. random taxis.
in the end we called the police, they dealt it stopped for a while then the verbal started up. dh lost it and shouted back at girl. her pratt of a father tried to kick our door down at 1 oclock in the morning. so in the end they were told off and we were told off, told not to speak to them basicly.

in the last week, ds has been abused(verbally) by girl whilst her dad stood and lol(not like ds could hit a girl) and every time dh goes in our back garden they shout at him. I have calle dthe police again.

but in the mean time can I kill them please. as MIL is here and she won't stop going on about it.

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Saturn74 · 23/08/2008 17:11

How horrible.
Can the police threaten them with anything - breach of the peace or something?
Would any of your neighbours be able to provide any evidence to strengthen your case against these vile people?

coppertop · 23/08/2008 17:12

You have my permission to kill them.

We had something similar from local children and teenagers a couple of years ago. It only ended when the police became involved and visited their homes. It would probably have felt a hundred times worse if the parents had started getting involved too, so I have lots of sympathy for you.

lauraloola · 23/08/2008 17:23

Kill them, kill them now.

I hate people like that. How can the dad just laugh when his dd is like that. What is wrong with this world.

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2shoes · 23/08/2008 18:03

the dad is an idiot, he thinks there is nothing wrong with his dd calling dd a spaz(shows what his mentality is like)
I am fed up with holding dh back, he so wants to deck the bloke.

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WorzselMummage · 23/08/2008 18:10

Let him go and kick ten tons of shit out of the bloke.

Or, if you dont fancy lowering yourself to their standards ( thought i'd be tempted ) you could get a camera and record their antics. Make sure you record everything that happens and then after a week or so go tot the police again and ask them to warn them for harassment.

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2shoes · 23/08/2008 18:19

oh I wish he could, I would sell tickets.

I don't really talk to many of my neighbours. now that ds doesn't play out I don't really see them.

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mother2two · 23/08/2008 18:21

Time to start writing to your MP, reminding him/her that there will most likely be a General Election next year, and inconsiderate and violent neighbours will be an election issue.

Ask him/her: what are his/her thoughts on anti-social behaviour issues and violence, and your case in particular.

When the time comes, you may wish to get the media involved if the MP fobs you off.

mumblechum · 23/08/2008 18:24

Definitely record them with a camcorder every time they kick off. Even if you're not in local authority housing, the authority has to take this sort of thing seriously and could use ASBOs.

So sorry you're going through this, it must be horrible.

KerryMum · 23/08/2008 18:25

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2shoes · 23/08/2008 18:29

I wouldn't get the media involved. ds would hate it.
we live in a HA house but as they live in a different association one, ours seems totally unintrested, they sent a deaf man out to talk to me!!!

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chunkychips · 23/08/2008 18:31

scum, I'm afraid, kill them.

giraffescantdancethetango · 23/08/2008 18:48
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colnelcustard · 23/08/2008 19:02

You can have them done for harassment. We had problems with our neighbours a couple of years ago. I used to hide in the house and feel physically sick with worry. They didn't even live next door to us full time just came in and out doing up the house (long story and don't want to hijack).

Basically it culminated in the fuckers (scuse my french) leaving their radio on 24 hours a day when they were not in the house for like a month at a time. I called the police they told me it was harrassment.

They only have to give you unwanted attention on two ocasions I think and you can call the police.

Google the harrassment act.

Heated · 23/08/2008 19:05

Very cross on your dd's behalf, 2Shoes. In my revenge fantasy I'd send round my FIL for you, he's a "fixer".

In reality what would produce you the best outcome? Would it be possible tamp down the anger and befriend these ppl? Or to request local mediation and genuinely ask in a tone of puzzlement why they are so unkind?

But no, YANBU.

smallwhitecat · 23/08/2008 19:06

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SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore · 23/08/2008 19:25

i think you are meant to keep a diary of their behavior and the problems they cause. thats what my dad had to do when they had problems in their street, they all got asbo's, curfews bans from certain areas etc. and if they are HA they may be made to move to another area.

SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore · 23/08/2008 19:26

oh its a good idea if you can get other neighbours involved aswell if they are annoying anyone else? get them too keep a diary too.

failing that killing them is allowed

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2shoes · 23/08/2008 19:28

befreind them......you have to be joking. not only did the dd call my dd her spaz, but her dad has as well,
I do not befreind people who do that.

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BitOfFun · 23/08/2008 19:33

They sound odious - I'm sorry you are having such a bad time - maybe send your MIL round to talk about her bowel movements ?

Seriously, I hope you get it sorted, that's awful for you x

sarah293 · 23/08/2008 19:35

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Heated · 23/08/2008 20:33

Apologies 2shoes if that sounded a daft/glib idea, only you can know the situation.

The only reason why I suggested it was that when we lived in a rough part of Leeds we inadvertently befriended a local child; we, unlike all the other neighbours, didn't know he was in an approved school for violence & had become an accomplished burglar thanks to his stepfather. They were particularly abysmal to our Sudanese neighbours who we became very friendly with. After that, we and they were hands off. Doesn't stop me watching out for him on Crimewatch though.

Hope this is soon resolved for you.

Thomcat · 23/08/2008 20:47

Oh my God 2shoes .

Keep a diary of the things that happen.
Tape it if you can maybe?
Keep calling the police.
Write to MP - there's a great thing online that you contact your local MP through, mine's great and gets straight back to me.

I hope that they not only stop but they are somehow forced to face up to their disgusting actions

Ripeberry · 23/08/2008 21:00

Just had something similar today.
Was just coming out of my mum's house and the teenagers from accross the road were just passing my parents house at the same time.
They started up with "Are you mental like your mum?" (she has Dementia).
I just ignored them and got into my car and they just stood in front of it, daring me to run them over.
They could have not been more than 13yrs old with a 7yr old with them.
But they soon moved out of the way.
I can deal with that kind of thing as they don't live by ME, but i would go to pieces if those shits lived in my street.
The OP is very brave, but with this scum you have to try and ignore them and hopefully they will get bored.
Why not get video evidence together? And also keep a diary of events, that should help the police at least to give that familly an ASBO.