To think that my dh should not be expected to work a 57 hour week!!!

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My husbands employee seems to think that their staff should be happy to work all hours but this latest rota is just a joke (or it would be if it wasn't true!) And yes it is allowed because the transport industry is excempt from the 48 hour rule! Very veery unhappy he will be going from the best rota he ever had to this. Not as bad as the horrendous hours he did last year when I was pregnant when he also had 2 hours travel time a day but its pretty close to it! Sorry just wanted to rant really!!!

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as they pay you 24/7 lol, you can't really argue

job security seems better though lol.

my dp can work 20 hr days with 4 hr travel time to and from as much as it is a pita we are grateful he has work and earning money

it doesnt leave alot of time for family time but im a sahm so the money needs to be coming in somewhere

he often works 7 day weeks and rarely takes holiday in fear of missing the better paid jobs but it works for us we are used to the set up now still it can upset us at times but we need money to survive

my dp is real wood floor layer works all over country in major department stores

before i has ds i was senior care in residentail home doing 50 hours a week plus horrible shift work

i must add when his not working he looks after ds i go out with friends and he doesnt undermine me and he gives me money each week for shopping and for me

its our partnership i look after the home and our ds i dont see myself as singke mum but i do feel ive raised him alone if that makes sence

i dont always like it i dont like how tired he is wehn he gets home he works away also coming back today after 6 days away but some people dont see there dp for 6 mths at a time we may not be rolling in money but we get our bills paid and have some for little luxuries not much but some

its just how alot of families are functioning now its a shame but it was always like this years ago men out workinga way or long hours mums at home with kids it just seems to be resufacing for alot of families

its how you spend your quality time that counts and we spand ours enjoying each other and we fully respect how hard the other person works

bubblagirl 24 hours a day 7 days a week?

Really? I think you get the prize on this thread!

lol i think my dp does bless him

its not everyday but near on travel time takes up alot of it and the working away

but its unsociable hours deadlines for contracts they have no choice

and me i do it all this end but i love it it can be waring ds has ASD and can be hard work at times but were stonger people for it we respect what each other has to do and we know why were doing it

and we give each other time when he does have weekend off i go out for the night [starting in afternoon ha ha] and he has one day to do his music which he finds theraputic so we allow each other space he gets quality time with ds and we also get quality time together the following day and each would have had some us time and space to relax and unwind

i wont lie has taken me 2 yrs to actually come to terms with it but we have a new found respect for each other so its ok now hard work but ok

You have my sympathy - my DH is pretty much worked into the ground too - he had to have 2 weeks off last year because he was suffering from exhaustion. This week has has returned home at midnight 3 days in a row (he was in work for 8 each day) and 9pm on the other 2 nights - next week doesn't look much better.

I agree that he is very lucky to have a job and he does earn a good wage so should expect more than 9-5 but I do wonder at them running their employees into the ground - he works in the advertising business and is a "creative" - how creative can they be on those hours.

I know that it is not his fault and I try very hard not to moan when he phones to say he's going to be late but it does get a bit much sometimes - plus the kids really do miss him alot.

No they aren't necessarily illegal. It depends on the job you do and whether it is exempt from legislation covering working hours. All sorts of jobs are. I'm not saying its always right, just stating the facts.

my DH does mon-fri 7am-10pm usually plus Sat and Sun 8am til 8pm. He is totally worked inro the ground in a salaried (no overtime) job (not in London and not with a London salary). He's worked yesterday, in today and will be in tomorrow. I have been in such a rage about it that I would like to put his employer out of business (but then we would have no income and I might get put in jail!). Our marriage is suffering (I just don't see him) and he has not been involved with our toddler and baby. TMMJ - isn't it legal if you sign away your rights to the 48 hour week?

well we see it that the hours may be unsociable but he earns not huge amount but more than he would in another job and even though the hours are long there not illegal in his line of ork as thats the industry with deadlines etc

its other people who feel they cannot survive without doing extra hours etc that allow there bosses to do it as they feel extra money can come in handy as if outside your required field of working hours you dont have to accept to do more unless you feel you could benefit from doing so

i was never made to feel i had to do overtime but i wanted it to survive the extra money meant i could afford things i couldnt other wise have

I can not believe that every body thinks these hours are ok, I really feel for you all, and I have a lot of sympathy for OP.

i dont think any of us really think there ok but i think were all realists that without these hours our quality of lives will not be the same

and by no means do we live a life of luxury so goodness knows how we'd live without these hours we'd be struggling

My DH (works for an american bank) works a 65 hour week and often works on projects at the weekend. He also has to go away frequently at the weekends.

From where we live he also has an hour commute each way.

It was nearly killing him so he now lives in a flat during the week where he is 10 mins from the office and can get back by 10pm when he has client dinners which happens at least once a week.

Sorry, a 45 hour week sounds like a walk in the park.

I think you are entitled to be p*d off. Self employed people who work 70 hours a week can take Tuesday morning off to go to the doctors, or be there for DC's injections, school performances etc. My DH is self employed and works really silly hours but he will tell you it is his own Business and his choice. Employed transport people do not have any flexibility and that is why all employed people need limits and regulations to working hours. Shareholders and directors (who have rarely had any experience of enforced long shift work) will squeeze workers until they collapse, given a choice between worker's quality of life versus the profit line. You are entitled to be cross, but not sure what you can do in the current environment.

My DP works a minimum 7 til 7, 5 days a week with an hour travel each way. If there is any work at the weekend he is expected to do it rather than asked. When he works weekends he does get overtime but he doesn't during the week. He gets moaned at if he takes a lunchbreak and they just generally walk all over him.

He is looking for another job but is unlikely to get one that is paid so well (his boss knows this, he uses money to take advantage) I hate it