OK, for the most part my FIL is lovely. Kind, generous and very funny. But he is a bit of a control freak (but a fabulous organiser), and has a tendancy to boss DH and his bro and sis about - they mostly ignore it tbh. He's tried it with me too but I told him to bugger off and I think he respected that! He has very little faith in his children's ability to manage anything. He's annoyed because we haven't yet told his dad (DH's grandpa) that I'm pregnant. This is purely because we thought it would be nice to do it face to face and this weekend is the first time we'll see him. He thinks we've been selfish for telling our friends without all of our family knowing. We haven't told him not to tell them though, and I'm relying on my parents to tell my extended family, otherwise the phone calls would bankrupt me. Nevermind the fact that until this weekend I hadn't even seen my parents since giving them the news! I'm a bit irritated with him for being so precious. Also, it's such a tiny, insiginificant thing but he called yesterday for the sole purpose of telling us not to forget the scan photos. FFS, we're not 5! I know full well that I'm an awkward bitch, but this sort of patronising attitude is only likely to make me 'forget' them on purpose. I know I'm probably BU, but this is really bugging me and I'm dreading that it's s sign of things to come! Does becoming grandparents really send the inlaws mad?