To be annoyed at SIL for copying everything I do (warning long rant)

[Shelly679]

Started off about 5 years ago when my now DH and I got engaged - two months later she was engaged. We set date for wedding and she said this was the date she wanted so I changed but this wasn't good enough and she set hers then for 6 months later. When I told family I was pg she then announced 2 months later that she was also pg - only 7 weeks gone!
Since the children has been born my MIL takes nothing to do with my DD but looks after hers constantly and stays overnight to "help her out" even though I live close to them also, and have no family and very little friends as I had to move - I have no outside support but was told "you can cope".

When they moved into their house they got the same sofa, tiles, and kitchen etc.

Now every time my DD gets something new the exact same thing appears in their house a week later.

I'm just so annoyed that they can't think for themselves, i'm not included in their lives as they don't think i'm good enough, yet they copy everything I do.

Sorry for the rant, I know IABU but just needed to get it off my chest.

It sounds like they're just at the same stage as you at the same time. People do get engaged, and then.... married,,, and then....pregnnat!

It's kind of funny that by following that predictable pattern you feel they are copying YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!

If she had got waited 4 years before they got engaged, wouldn't you have also said they had copied you?

I always think that weddings/babies go in patches anyway.

People hear someone else is pg, think, ooh how lovely, and want to do it themselves.

Alternatively, your MIL may praise you to the skies to your SIL. SIL may think, oh no, if she has a baby, I'll lose my mum to her, she'll be round there all the time, and I'll never see her. Better have one meself . . .

Thanks balloonslayer that made me laugh my mil would never praise me, especially not to my SIL, ww3 would start!!
I am currently pg with dc2 and MIL warned SIL she was not to be getting pg as she could not look after 2 children!

TBH the wedding etc things never really bothered me until i was expecting dd and then it was everyone else that made comments about her 'stealing my thunder' and even then I laughed it off, I never was the sort of person to let things like that bother me. Its just really lately that after dd was born that every time I got something new the exact same thing appeared in her house - not even something similar - the exact same.

btw I was giving my mil something for looking after my dd, I wouldn't have expected her to do it for nothing and she knew that, whereas the SIL does give her nothing. Also in hindsight the childminder worked out brilliantly and wished we had of decided on that from the start.