to put a sarcastic note to my neighbour, in with the money for my avon order?

[onthepier]

A few days ago there was a message on our answerphone from the lady across the road, (an agent from avon), saying my order was ready to be picked up.

I popped round the following morning, saying I hoped she didn't mind me being early but myself + dh were going to a nearby city for the day, (early start). By coincidence she said she was going as well.

Anyway, myself + dh were walking along to the bus stop, (we don't drive), when she pulled up in her car + offered a lift. We got in out of politeness really, would have preferred to make our own way.

The whole journey she was questionning us about being non drivers, why don't we drive, what about your children, don't they miss out, etc? She was very rude in our opinion, with lots of tutting + eye rolling when we answered.

The fact is that dh + I both have good jobs, neither of us has taken to driving, (dh actually passed his test years ago though). We could afford a car but instead use that money to pay for transport as + when we need it, trains, buses, taxis etc. Have been doing this for over 12 years now since we married, + it's suited us fine!

We've positioned ourselves centrally + even when we go on holiday we taxi to the airport, so we're certainly not expecting to be ferried around by anyone! The dc's enjoy all the modes of transport we use + certainly don't miss out!

I owe her money for the avon order, AIBU to enclose a note saying we're happy with our lifestyle thanks very much, + would prefer it if she didn't quiz + criticise us again? My dh is also furious and wants no dealings with her, but I feel I can't just let this go!

YABU - she was probably just trying to make conversation. If it bothers you that much, don't accept a lift next time. It is none of her business really, how you live your lifes

YABU. And paranoid.

And if you say anything in your note you'll make yourself look like a fruitloop.

Don't say anything. Just distance yourself, and move on.

for Expat - would you ever consider being an Avon Lady? You've mentioned liking their products, and having difficulty finding them - and have also written about being skint. I know you're now in a fairly isolated location, but that may 'help' as residents don't have many options for makeup and skincare. Daft idea, or interesting possibility to earn some cash working from home?

YABU - you have totally lost all sense of proportion.

She was just trying to be friendly. Why on earth would you put a sarcastic note through her letterbox after she gave you a lift somewhere. Because she dared to comment on your lifestyle choices?

YABU - I'd have thought she was just making conversation.

Once you drive, you wonder how you ever managed without a car. It probably started off as light conversation and a pound to penny she was met with simmering hostility and she ended up babbling.

If she was neighbourly enough to offer you a lift, she is probably the sort of neighbour you could do with in a crisis.

So if you want to burn your boats go right ahead.

i've thought about it, EB, but i'm no good at selling. i'd rather buy it off someone else and get a wee job in a pub where i get paid a steady amount/week for pulling pints, cleaning up and keeping the punters properly watered .

wrong thread!!!

so, onethepier, what did you buy?

how do you rate the gear?

Yeah do the note. And don't buy Avon from her again, the bitch.

Only joking.

Don't be horrid and just forget the whole thing. And I hope you said thank you very much for the nice lift, which has meant that she car shared and thus was being all nice and green.

I tend to babble if i feel like i have put my foot in it. Perhaps she asked, you were defensive and she just bumbled on.

But whether you were right to be offended or not is neither here nor there. Putting a note in is really really childish. Either be a grown up and discuss it with her face to face or let it go

It is not at all worth falling out with one of your neighbours over something as ludicrous as this!

agree with everyone else. definitely don't write the note! Do you take offense quite easily do you think?

offence, i mean

Thanks for all your responses, didn't expect so many!

For the poster who asked which Avon products I use, i mainly buy children's gifts as my dc's are invited to so many parties! This time it was 2 pink bag/purse sets + 2 hair braiding kits. For the record I'm not normally easily offended + my dh wouldn't normally care what people thought of him!

Anyway, I didn't post a note through, just paid the money. However, this morning at the local shop I was with my 2 dc's, heard a Hello + it was my neighbour!

She actually bent down + said to my eldest child, "I bet you're fed up with going everywhere by bus aren't you? You need to have words with your dad + get him driving, I'll get on to him if you like"!

At which point I said we're perfectly happy as we are thank you + left!

Now wasn't that a lot more satisfactory than sticking a nutter note, through her door ??

You're a complete nutter OTP.

I hope you thumped her too