if at 40 weeks pregnant I want to be an antisocial, bad tempered old cow?

[bohemianbint]

Will be 40 wks on Sunday. Am huge, knackered, immobile, grouchy and fed up. I already have a 2 year old who I looking after a by myself full time in the week, which is why I love the weekends; DH is fab and loves spending time with DS so I can get some time to chill.

Thing is, tomorrow we have friends coming over to show us their new baby (rub it in why don't you!) and they'll be bringing their 2.5 year old as well. I really like them, but I just can't be arsed being all entertainy while our 2 boys rip the house up and I'm supposed to be all gooey about a new baby.

I also have a friend who wants to come and stay at the end of the month. I love her to bits too, but not sure at what stage this baby's going to show up, and whilst it sounded like a good idea when she first mentioned it, am now getting the fear as don't want to be hostessy when have just popped, want to spend all my non existent spare time sleeeeeeeeping if at all possible, or chilling with my new baby, DH and DS.

Also - the bloody text message and phone calls, all the time...."are you still pregnant?!!"....with massive shock, although am not even due til Sunday, and could in theory be another 2 weeks...

I know. Am being a bit of a bag. They all mean well and all. But all I want to do is lie in bed, read magazines and eat chocolate by myself. Not have the same conversation over and over again:

"oh you must be fed up now!
"are you sure it's not twins"
"have you got any names yet"

etc etc ad nauseum.

AIBU?

Tell your friend who is planning to come to stay that she cannot come to stay right now!

Any decent friend would understand!

YANBU.

Postpone all arrangements. No point in you stressing yourself.

Good friends will understand. Folk with new baby ought to understand too.

im 40+8 today and im telling u i sat in my bed watching tele ignoring all phone calls from everyone even my partner. the last thing i wanted was to speak to anyone to tell them there was still no signs. ive tried everything to get the baby out but nothing is working

YANBU
Please don't OD on raspberry leaf thou - no proof but friend went OTT with it and had extra quick first time birth - 2 hours - but baby had brain damage. Could have been result of extra quick birth but maybe not?

YANBU! Cripes, i was about 6 days overdue when i went into labour, but for days before that people would ring to say, ooh have you had it yet

I even said "yeah it was a girl, i had her a few days ago, didnt anyone tell you??" to a few just to get them off the phone

Enjoy your last few days without the hassle of playing hostess, put off your friends and stuff your face with curry! Good Luck

Oh no, YA definitely NBU. I couldn't even face going to pick my kids up from school when waiting for DD3 to appear. The sickly sweet and pitiful looks and the mindless comments. Yuck!

Oh poor thing Totally sympathise

I went to 42 weeks with dd and the fucking phone calls used to drive me insane

"FUCK OFF I WILL TELL YOU WHEN I HAVE HAD BABY"

In fact I am sure I put a snotty message on the answering machine along the lines of

"No lilymolly had not had the baby yet and is resting so please leave a message"

Totally acceptable to be bitch from hell so YANBU

And cancel the friend coming to stay thats outrageous

natalier - poor you, you sound so fed up! Hope things get moving on asap!

daffodill6 - . That's an awful thought. The tea had a fairly big effect on me last time and my labour (1st baby) was 4 hours but it was all fine, thank god, if not a bit intense.

The friends did come this afternoon in the end but it was actually really nice to see them so I'm obviously not quite the old bag I thought. Was absolutely knackered by the time they left though and am now fit for nothing.

Will definitely have to put other friend off though. I think it will just make me cry otherwise. Dunno why I agreed in the first place, I think I half thought she wasn't serious, and half thought the baby would be well out by then. Ah well.......