to be sick of people feeling sorry for me because me and partner have not got hitched?

[givemeabreak]

I'm getting sick of people saying that they are going to start getting on at partner to pop the question. Just because we have 2 kids we shouldn't have to explain to people why we haven't got married yet. Is that not our business. Also get pissed off that people assume my 2 pregnancies must be accidents because we are not married!

I've been engaged for over 12 years now, and 3 kids and a mortgage later, i think we're as committed as we will be. My oh does want us to get married and i keep saying, yeah one day.

I'd probably only do it for the pressies and the party [insert tipsy smiley here]

I am sorry but if you do it for the presents and the party - celebrate your birthday! You don't want a marriage, you want a wedding, the 2 are NOT the same thing.

DP says if it was just the presents and party, we would have done it ages ago

I'm not going to harp on about the sanctity of marriage but the reason DP and I aren't married is that he doesn't believe in it. This is what I tell people who ask why we're not married yet. Stops them in their tracks!

Dp and I celebrated our Silver non-Wedding this year. Luckily after about 10 years people stopped going on about marriage. When dd1 was born it started up again but soon died down.

a good man 2 children you dont have to explain/justify anything

living in sin is so much fun

i used to work with a wee holy willy who assumed i was married when she found out to the contrary she couldnt look at me for tutting and muttering about living in sin. i loved it made me laugh

you dont necessarily need the affirmation of marriage you have a good thing already. a good solid relationship does not need the validation of marriage.

marriage is deeply personal and really up to you.no one else

I get fed up with letters arriving to Mr&Mrs XP's surname.
It's not my name, nor my partners but because we have been to any of DD's appointments together people just assume we're married and that DD is DP's daughter.

Been with my dp for 14 years, we have two kids and aren't married and have no intention of being. We are all very happy and have a (relatively) lovely life!!

There was definitely a phase, about five years in, where my family and friends started making big hints that there might be a prob cos we had not mentioned marriage. But we just carried on as we were and now no-one is bothered, no-one mentions it and we just do what the heck we want.

I call dp my live-in lover and he rather likes it.

ah likey that sounds dirrty. i also like my current boyfriend or my biddie-in

I'm married, so everything's technically 'above board'... but I'm guessing the years of living in sin that went beforehand have already sealed my fate in hell. Ah well.

BTW, YANBU. Tell them to feck off.

I have written my first AIBU and everyone says im not! Holy moly!

YABU

Get down to the registry office now!

Or preferably a church.