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to want dh to stop gobbing in our sink?

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deaconblue · 14/08/2008 13:14

Every morning when he wakes up and every night before bed he makes a revolting snorting noise, gobs snot in the sink and then runs the tap. Every night it makes me retch and it is me who cleans the blardy sink.
So finally after 5 years together I say this morning "please could you gob in a tissue and put it down the loo or in the bin?"
him grumpily "maybe"
so is it an unreasonable request or is he an unhygienic pig?

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DaDaDa · 14/08/2008 14:52

In the street is entirely different to in his own home.

I think you are being slightly unreasonable.

He's making sure it isn't left in the sink, so on cleanliness grounds it isn't a problem. I know the sound is disgusting, but cattarh is not snot, so blowing his nose is not relevant. If it's stuck in his throat [sorry ] he has to cough to shift it.

It sounds like maybe he needs to cut down on dairy; that made a big difference to me. Now I only occasionally get it if I've been boozing quite heavily (and I try to be discreet.)

Bumdiddley · 14/08/2008 14:58

Sorry I forgot to say YANBU!

It's the noise that drives me mad!!

The hoifing (not sure that is a word) and hacking and then a spit. It always makes me grimace if I here it.

It's utterly vile!

juneybean · 14/08/2008 15:11

Ewwww, my dad does this because he's a smoker/drinker. It's bloody disgusting.

Original poster
deaconblue · 14/08/2008 19:22

ah but it doesn't really wash away. There are always slightly green trails in the sink... I think better in a tissue coz then it can't stick to sink/loo. really revolting.

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Dropdeadfred · 14/08/2008 20:17

OH MY GOD [green with nausea]....give him rubber gloves, bathroom cleaner and a scourer....and if that doesn't stop him give him a divorce petition. That is beyond disgusting!!!

morningpaper · 14/08/2008 20:19

I don't think it's that bad

Don't you brush your teeth/spit in the sink/gargle/spit in the sink?

he washes it down

I take my mooncup out and throw it across the bathroom into the sink and the bathroom looks like I have killed a pig

cocolepew · 14/08/2008 20:21

But he washes it away! Fransandisco my DH doesn't that blowing snot done one nostril thing in the shower

DaDaDa · 14/08/2008 20:22

Great oneupwomanship from MP in the gross-out stakes there.

Good point about teeth brushing though.

Dropdeadfred · 14/08/2008 20:24

teeth brushing is in no way on a parr with clearing your throat and leaving 'green trails' in the sink that is used by others to wash their hands etc

And he does this in earshot of his beloved wife...
YUK YUK YUK

RubyRioja · 14/08/2008 20:25

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morningpaper · 14/08/2008 20:26

next time he is in the bath

go to toilet

remove mooncup

toss in sink but miss so it lands in bath

say 'oh sorry'

Dropdeadfred · 14/08/2008 20:28

Oh...I am so glad that I have already eaten or I really would be puking...do you kiss this man after this???

DaDaDa · 14/08/2008 20:34

He needs to sloosh the water about with his hand after he's gobbed is all.

I'm sorry, I'm a gentlemanly sort really but you're all being a bit girly about this.

Tell him to cut down on dairy/booze/fags.

Dropdeadfred · 14/08/2008 20:53

girly??!!

DaDaDa · 14/08/2008 21:06

Mmmm.

"Daphne, pass the smelling salts, I fear I may faint. There is a man spitting!"

Fanlight · 14/08/2008 21:13

It's really horrible to swallow it, I had this problem when I was pg, it's nasty but I would go and do it very discreetly without anyone hearing ie close bathroom door and flush loo!

Had to cough because it would stick and make me gag otherwise

But discreet, I emphasise, is the way to go if you are in need..

Dropdeadfred · 14/08/2008 21:19

I don't think smelling salts are what I'd need if my DH decided to 'gob' in my bathroom sink leaving 'green trails'...nice that you think you're gentlemanly though..

CHOCOLATEPEANUT · 14/08/2008 21:20

my dh does the same!!!

Men are mingin

Fanlight · 14/08/2008 21:21

...would not do it in sink though...

in case anyone thought I was coarse or anything...

FattipuffsandThinnifers · 14/08/2008 21:22

My god, sorry but that is just grotesquely re-volt-ing. I can't believe it's taken you 5 years to have serious words! If it was me he would've got a verbal warning, then written, then would have been aaahhht if he ever did it again.

But anything to do with spitting is my biggest pet-hate so I'm intolerant! A homeless person once spat on my foot in a tube station and called me a 'snobby looking c**t' and I never got over it!

Lubyloo · 14/08/2008 21:26

DH does the nose blowing into his hand thing in the shower and then washes it down the plughole! Men, like children, can be quite disgusting at times.

DaDaDa · 14/08/2008 22:27

Craziness. Sinks, toilets, bidets - they're 'sanitary ware', they exist to dispose of bodily fluids.

BeHereNow · 14/08/2008 22:40

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StripeyKnickersSpottySocks · 14/08/2008 22:41

My dh spits in the loo every morning while he's having a wee. Better than the sink I suppose...

cadelaide · 14/08/2008 22:42

I would be sick.

I'm retching just reading it.

I'm sorry but you have to leave him.

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