for NOT wanting my 23 year old husband to get the snip??

[DisenchantedPlusBump]

He said he wants to do so this morning, my eyes welled up on the way home from play group.

I don't want him to.

3andnomore, I will DEFINATLY be taking contracepive measures after this baby. I don't want another for the near future, possible 5 years or so, but I want the option to be there.

Im only 23!

Good luck btw. Discuss it with him - he might just be scared of having 4 under 5 iyswim

they let one of my mates get the snip at 29
neither he or his wife wanted kids
they had t face numerous questions but eventually they let him have it done
as long as you are very firm and adamant with the decision they have to carry it out afaik

I suppose so Jane,

it is something he needs to consider.

Though I would haunt his bed! pmsl

Disenchanted...if you are willing to use contraceptives and , as you say never fell accidentally pg, I can't really see why he would want the snip...especially as you are both so young.

My dh just went for the snip last week...we do have 3 children, and we definately don't want anymore children...neither of us.
Over recent years I had tried several different contraceptive measures, but ever since having ds 3 , I had nothing but trouble with the methods we tried...so, we decided the best option for us was for him to get a vasectomy.
In a marriage, I definately believe, that it has to be a joint decision, imo.

BTW, dh mentioned, that whilst not a painful procedure in itself...teh numbing injections were painful, and the procedure itself felt very weird....he felt all the pulling and tugging....!

I think you sound very sensible. There are lots of other contraception methods around, and if you are happy to take the reins on this then hopefully he will understand.

I agree that it's highly unlikely any surgeon will do this procedure on one so young, and you are perfectly right that both of you may want more children in the future.

Ask him to compromise, say if he still feels the same way in 5 years then you can discuss it then.

Hey, my dh and i are 38 and still won't take the vasectomy plunge!!!

YANBU If you want more children after this one arrives then you need to say something. As a nurse I can say that unless he went private it is highly unlikely that they would do it on a man so young. The reasons being the what if questions, like something happened to you and he met someone else who didn't have children and wanted them. What if the relationship ended (hopefully not that this will be the case but you can't forcast the future)and again he got someone else who wanted children. Reversal is very hit and miss and isn't reliable, so once it is done it is pretty much final. Have you asked him why he wants it?

My exh had it done, no questions asked (except the obvious 'are you sure?), at 24.

Can you talk to him about going on the injection or implant or something a bit more long term in order to let him know you are serious. I mean, fair enough, he might never change his mind, but he has a long time in which to possibly change it. IYSWIM.

I feel for you.

I'm pretty sure he doesn't mean it.

Will have a chat tonight and update you tomorrow

If he does think he'd like 5 kids, and if you're both around the same age, you could wait a few years before having more kids to take the pressure off, say until 30. You're still young enough to have another 2 then, and the three you have now will be old enough to be helpful.

Relax D+bump. At his young age, he would really have to put forward quite a case to get one on the nhs. Such as having a genetic disease, mental health problems, having children with more than one mother already. I don't think he could possibly persuade them to do the operation. He would be counselled out of it.