I am going on an overnight trip with work during October half term. I asked dh if he could take two days off work to cover the trip - the rest of the week will be covered by me taking holiday and by my not working Weds or Fri anyway. His attitude was very much "well I suppose I'll have to"
Why should it be such a chore?
I have taken two weeks off to cover dd only being at school for half days to begin with (she is starting reception) - because he is too busy to do ANY of it.
However if he fancies a day off to do something that he wants to do then it's fine . To be fair he doesn't take a day or two off and then piss off to the pub, when he's off it's to finish jobs around the house but sometimes I would love to take a day off work and go to Ikea to buy some shelves on a whim (he did this last week), but I can't, because ALL my leave is taken up by dd's needs.
This year we have had a week away together as a family but other than that ALL my annual leave has been taken up by ferrying dd to hospital appointments, school visits, and then the two weeks of her starting school. I didn't have enough left to cover the whole of half term anyway.
I work part time now, three days a week, so admittedly I will get time to myself during my two days off while dd is at school. However, the plan was for me to do the lion's share of the housework during this time which will free up the weekends for us to spend time together as a family either at home or visiting friends or relatives.
I am annoyed that he is so obviously put out by having to look after his own daughter during the school holidays. Is this what it's going to be like? If he thinks that dd's holidays are going to be covered by my annual leave, family stepping in or holiday clubs so that he can do what the fuck he likes with his annual leave, he is very much mistaken.
He seems to think that I should be flexible all the time whereas he doesn't. He's the first to rattle on about how employers should be sympathetic to working parents but somehow that doesn't apply to his employers .
In all honesty this is just a symptom of bigger problems surrounding his thoroughly selfish attitude. But this is what has pissed me off today.
I am not BU am I? Should I accept that because I work 3 days a week I have given myself over to being dd's main carer ALL THE TIME?