Crikey! I hope not! I have been married 26 years and together for 30, romance certainly isn't dead!
It IS the little things that you do for each other without being asked, my DH is a hopeless romantic and spoils me. I'm not talking chocolates and flowers either.
He works away Mon to Fri on assignment at the moment, only 60 miles away but a crap journey on the M6/M1. Friday night is always a bottle of champagne and a good special dinner, with or without DC's
He makes me scrambles on Saturdays, Sundays I do him poached, and we just sit and read the papers at the breakfast table and read little snippets put to each other, as we read different papers.
He does fab ice cream treats for interval snack during a film, grating chocolate, using mint leaves, swirls of creme anglaise etc. he does a wicked tapas board and it is the care and precision that I find touching as he has done it for me. ( and him obviously as he scoffs it too!)
I leave notes in his case on a Sunday night, we speak several times a day, even just a few words, just asking a question as though he was here.
Buying a favourite author's new book, writing a postcard that you find, talk about a book you have read, look at holiday places together, look at old photos and laugh!
We have to try harder with young adults around, to have time to ourselves, much easier when they were in bed at 7.00 pm every night! At least the house is big enough we have our own sitting room and they theirs if they want it, but they still go to bed after us, and theirs is below our bedroom....... just as well they don't rise until midday at weekends.
Start with the little things, then bigger things will happen naturally.
Above all, talk to each other, we are friends as well as husband and wife.