to be cheesed off cos DP told someone our baby name when we agreed not to?

[LadyThompson]

I am probably am - I feel a bit crap today. I'm 24 weeks, and after much to-ing and fro-ing, we have come up with a name (inc two middle names) for our DD to be. We agreed not to tell anyone, to avoid the inevitable comments, and also because everyone already knows the sex and it was so nice to have a secret just between the two of us. But now DP has told his sister, to whom he is close, and I feel annoyed, probably out of all perpective. Now, I KNOW this is a piddly leetle matter and worse things happen at sea, but I think

• why did he do this when we had agreed?
• if I tell him something else (far more important) is between us only in future, will he break his word again?
• the baby is due in three months, why couldn't she have waited until then?

Like I said, it's a silly matter but because I feel a bit gloomy and touchy today for some reason, I just want to know whether I have temporarily lost perspective or whether he was wrong. Ta.

Kitkat, THAT IS EVEN WORSE. Ok, so you didn't tell DH not to tell anyone, but your FIL was bang out of order.

Aaaaaaaargh. These people.

If we have another kid I am going to tell DP that I REFUSE to discuss names with him until the last minute, on the basis that he can't be trusted not to blab

Oh, my FIL marches to the beat of his own drum. I'm used to it now but every now and then he does something that drives me INSANE.

You've every right to feel upset, esp at 24w...maybe you could suggest to your SIL that you haven't fully decided on the name yet actually, that was just the one that dh liked the best and he got over-excited? Just to keep that little element of mystery.

I was so peed off yesterday that I told dh we were changing the name. Purely to piss his father off. It can be quite the battle of wills round here, let me tell you!

Mum loved the name James and told my grandmother who went and who informed Mum she would call him "Sunny Jim" and told everyone that he was being named after her own father (who my dad didn't even know!) and she was so proud. Mum decided to make it his middle name!

My same grandmother told me she understood that I wouldn't want to call my child after her (Hilda) but she would be so proud if I used my aunts name (same aunt who cut us out the will with a clause that we would get the money if Dad left Mum).