To have had a go at the ice cream lady???

[macdoodle]

Bit of background..
single mum to nearly 7 year old DD1 and baby 7 months DD2
live in quiet cul de sac loads of kids play out including my DD1
my DD1 is grown up and articulate and as far from shy as you can get
bloody ice cream van comes every day in the summer and twice on the weekend with a queue of kids every time - they take a £1 each time irrelevant of what they get (eg same for soft serve, ice lolly or even dipper licker etc only exception is the double scoop soft serve for which they take £2) is costing me a fortune even making DD1 pay for some herself with money from GP's, dad etc
the usual ice cream man is nice and pleasant to kids

Tonight am in middle of putting baby to bed when in comes DD1 crying her heart out with soft serve covered in sauce (she hates sauce) - says she told lady (new) that she didn't want sauce but got it anyway and when told her that she didn't want one with sauce she told her to "lick it off" - it is very unlike my DD1 to cry over something like this and she says ice cream lady was "mean"

She is so upset that out I go with poor baby who was in middle of bottle (single mum so no one else in house)...and politely tell ice cream lady that DD1 didn't want sauce - she gets quite arsey with me saying she didn't hear her - am getting bit pissed off myself now - trying to hold onto temper in front of queue of kids - and say but there was no need to be mean to her you get quite a good business off these kids and if we stop letting them out to you will lose business...she continues to be arsey at which stage am afraid I did lose my temper and threw ice cream at her (luckily it just skidded on serving surface and splattered her leg a little)...also shouted that I was fed up with ice cream van and if they couldn't bother to be nice to the kids not to come back and I would ring council and complain....
She then did an abrupt about turn, apologised said she was just winding me up and replaced ice cream...
So AIBU - am a but ashamed for losing my temper but not for standing up for my DD1...

oh hell dem glistening pitchforks making dem way to Macdoodle home.hold em high ladies

she stands accused of

wilfully throwing ice-cream (admits this assault)

gorging and feasting on ice cream - partially admits this. MN jury still out

blithely allowing wee one to sneak out to procure more ice-cream

oh yes, I see now.

Nothing about this situation would really bother me, apart from the ice cream woman's rudeness.

Well not really sneaking out - they are already playing out - I am inside and have already told her no ice cream and she has kept a pound in her pocket so buys one without me knowing !
Well we have had a chat about not throwing or shouting to get your way...she seems more worried about the fact that I told her not to come back ...
Anyway we have agreed to one ice cream in the week and one on weekends...any money I would have spent (for good behaviour/jobs etc) will go in an old money box we have found as will any money from GP's,dad etc ...and if she has enough by end of the holidays she can buy a new build-a-bear which I had said no before because too expensive .......

i would keep low profile until the regular vendor returns

LOL scottishmummy - was expecting a worse bashing than this TBH - am laughing about it now - should I apologise to the lady tomorrow

Oh right, got you.

In answer to your question were ybu to have a go at the ice cream lady - as this included throwing an ice cream at her, yes you were. Surprised you have to ask.

i would pick a quiet time and go for full contrition.hold wee baby for extra i am a mum i get flaky please forgive me

then keep low profile for few days

Apologise in a confident straightforward way, don;t grovel. She was rude first

She was probably more worried because you threatened to report them to the council tbh.

YANBU (in my opinion) about chucking the ice cream at her (counter) what were you meant to do with it, hold it until it melted down your arm?

good for you.

ok so maybe you shouldn't have thrown the icecream but it didn't hit her and by the sound of it she was purposefully trying to wind you up and was an utter cow to your dd who has been paying for her petrol singlehandedly for months

i like to think i would have calmly and rationally debated my point with her in your situation but tbh.... i'd probably have hit her in the face with it

i always had at least one icecream every day during the summer as a kid and it never did me or anyone i know any harm. it's only an icecream fgs, i'm sure she eats proper food 95% of the time but where's the harm in ice-cream? as long as she's not existing solely on mr. whippy and coca cola 24/7 it's not going to do her any damage.

don't blame you one bit. a pound for everything? rip off Its 50 p here and loads of stuff for under 50p.

Bet you wish you'd got her in the face with it, miserable cow!

YABU for throwing the ice-cream
But

Funny that - I remember the bullies at school saying the same kind of thing - I was only joking...

Yeah whatever. No YANBU, good on you. I wish I were confident enough to do that kind of thing!

Whatever happened to telling your kids the icecream van plays the jingle when they've run out of ice cream?

Amateurs, the lot of you.