ok am done with the brooding. now i need to know if i am. be gentle[grin]

[CvQ]

gahhhh mother has taken it upon herslef to tidy and rearrange my food cupboards after only being here 4 hours.am i being unreasonable to be annoyed or should i be grateful

be gentle

are you on msn?i can show you my beautiful purple cast lol

what's great is that the kids can't read yet, so i can quite happily make rude words and nobody tells me off.

my MIL always rearranges my kitchen when she visits too. and puts everything in upside down which i'm sure is a pisstake.
ignore it, then reclaim your kitchen when she's gone.

hope you fell better get rid of unwanted cupboard tidier soon

i dont know how long she will be here for
she is being helpful but gaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhh

My mother is a cupboard tidier too. She went home yesterday and I have spent all day today just looking for all the stuff she has helpfully put away.

thats what im worried about gahhhhhhhhhh

It could be worse, CvQ - My mother is a cupboard tidier, meal maker, clothes washer, clothes drier, clothes ironer, clothes putter-awayer, bed maker, house cleaner, babysitter, dog walker and gardener...

Ohh... and a sheet changer!! I change my duvet at least once a week, but as soon as my mother arrives, she strips my bed and washes it

Such a nightmare help

I love her to bits, but she drives me up the wall!!!!

So, it would be GAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH from me!

CVQ YANBU it drives me mad too!!

My mum used to do this all the time i'd go out to the corner shop come back and my living room would be re-arranged, because it was more comfortable for her even if she was only staying overnight!! She constantly 'moves' things where she thinks they look better - drives me potty! [grrr] but i have had a word with her and she now tries to do more useful things like ironing, folding washing etc, i don't ask her to btw she just has to do something to 'help' when she's here, so i decided that if she wants to i'd tell her what was really useful to me, thankfully she has listened (kind of!) ...... my poor sis on the other hand still hasn't had the courage to talk to her so still comes home to find her cutlrey drawer re-arranged, bedding changed when it doesn't need it etc

When we moved my MIL 'helped' me unpack the kitchen, she put everything in the cupboards where she thought it was better for her, she doesn't even live with us or visit very often!!!!

CvQ, there is nothing I dislike more than someone rearranging my things or worse, throwing away things without checking with me.

If someone wants to be helpful, they can do the washing up or cleaning. Just don't mess up the order of my things because then I won't be able to find it.

My new cleaner did just that. I know she was trying to be helpful but I was LIVID (not in her presence). Very quickly put her straight the next time.

As for your mother doing it, there is the added are all kinds of loaded messages in that, which makes it trickier. She should check with you first.

gahhhhhhhhhhh

she has washed out my washing machine and drawer

i need to make her a list asasp!!!! help!!!

ahem

both - drives me buts when my mum does this - I always take it as a damning indictment on my ability to cope... and yet.... it is very nice having a clean and tidy kitchen

has she done it in a good logical way which suits you or not?

You ungrateful wretch!

I would feel exactly the same way. It always feels as if she thinks that I live in a pigsty. Not mum so much as MIL actually.

Bless, she means well. Could you sigh and say, "I don't know how I am going to manage washing and ironing/cleaning the windows..." and get her doing stuff that actually needs doing?

i was asked this morning when i cleaned the skirting boards last

does anyone actually do that???

I have lived in this house for 3 years and have not cleaned the skirting boards.

perhaps you should rent her out so that she can sort us all out!

For the record my skirting boards get a quick hoover when I'm hoovering.

oh my keeps telling me that my picture rails need cleaning - I hadn;t noticed I had any until then (she has a thing about the skirting boards too)

were back from nursery and so far i havent spotted any colour coding although am too scared to look in my airing cupboardfor fear of regamental piles

have got j upstairs for asleep

YANBU, it really gets on my nerves when my mum comes over and I find her cleaning the kitchen sides or brushing the kitchen floor. Firstly, it's rude, my house is not dirty, and secondly, hers is!! I wouldn't mind if hers was spotless but it is a mess so she should spend more time doing hers and get out of my ruddy kitchen!

Annnnnnnd breathe!

do you feel better now lollipop

One good thing came of your mum's meddling helpful good deed for the day. She shamed me into cleaning my skirting boards.

ill let her know

ohhh - slight hijack - how's nursery?

nursery was ok.he didnt make any babies cry this week
so he starts next week