to have told DH to stop playing with the boy at playgroup??

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DH loves playgroup, lol. We go on a Wednesday and he plays with all the kids, pulls them round on the trailer in the garden bit, talks to all the mums etc...

But today there was a boy there who was about 7, he must've been there as its summer holidays and was brought along by mum with the younger child.

However he was very, very boisterous. His mum is a helper so he just ran around outside unsupervised and was entertaining himself.

Now DH was playing with some other kids, by this I mean sitting on the floor outside with a toy garage and cars.

The year old comes over and joins in, but is immediately ramming cars into the garage etc..

DS2 goes inside and DH goes after him, year old follows.

I can hear DH talking and playing with year old and next thing he comes out with the boy over his shoulders and shouting 'right, thats it... your going over the fence'

He took him over to the fence and pretended he was going to chuck him over.

I went over to DH and told him to put him down.

I said he is not your child, I know hes having fun but if you drop him you could get in alot of trouble! Its OK with our kids but you can't go doing it with other peoples!

He seemed peeved but put him down.

Well that was it!

The kids wouldn't leave DH alone then, kicking him, hitting him, throwing stuff at him not nastily but he was just hyper and that was how he played etc...

DH wouldn't say anything so I went over and said 'could you please not hit and kick, its not nice'.

This didn't deter him, for the whole session he was doing these sorts of things.

We found a bug and the kid wouldn't let anyone else have a hold, he was throwing sticks at it.

TBH I really don't think he should be ther, its a toddler group.

DH said I was being daft, but the kid was getting really out of hand and I could see DH was uncomfortable with being kicked and stuff!

I don't know whether I should query if theres an upper age limit.

I don't want to sound bitchy but the boys love playgroup and I really don't know if I could face a repeat of this for the next 6 weeks!

The 7yo's parent/carer should be monitoring him not leaving it to other adults.

Probably best to limit interaction with the older boy if it means the littlies are shoved out of the way or shown inappropriate behaviour IMO.

Good idea LilyLoo tho the surestart centre should be doing that not a hands on dad TBH.

I know why the

My ex was like this, would get so silly that the playing would often become what I saw as inappropriate....for example, if a strange man (which he is to the other kids there) OR woman began lifting my ds up in the air and being over familiar, I would feel uncomfortable. I would never do that to another child i didn't know...friends kids, yeah, all the time!

Where are the boundaries that most people would place on their own behaviour?

Hard one. We have the same situation, only it is my son that is 4, nearly 5, who I take along. In my 7 years of attending, there have always been 4/5 year old children there, but this year my son and one other child were the only ones. I saw a couple of questioning looks, and felt a bit awkward, but felt it was still OK to go along for 20 minutes or so until DS became bored.

The reason I took my older son along was because the other older child will be in his class at school and it was an opportunity to get to know him. Once he had done that, we started arranging playdates, so I am glad that I persevered.

I too would have steered the naughty child back to his mother. I do think 7 is a little old and I would go home if an older child of mine became too boisterous for the younger ones.

I'm so sorry, I read it wrongly and just couldn't get my head round it. Obviously having a blond moment. Sorry for annoying everyone.