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to not want to share dd's noodle in the swimming pool?

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ThePettyandIllinformedGoat · 05/08/2008 13:44

it drives her nuts when someone borrows it. and she does occassionally let some kids play with it. but last time these women came up and demanded to know if she had finished with it and could their son have it. i said no and it was like i had pulled their swimsuits down. piss off an dbuy your own.

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ThePettyandIllinformedGoat · 05/08/2008 14:24

lol @ pulling swimsuit out of bum.

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minouminou · 05/08/2008 14:24

very classy indeed...heh heh
no, what was classy was you not twatting her in the first instance, because, good lord.....that pool would've run red.....

MrsSprat · 05/08/2008 14:25

Holiday pools and lidos are a nightmare for this. It's never clear whether stuff is communual or belongs to people and temporarily abandoned. I was in a pool with DD and one of the other kids came up to play with her (she was only 5 months old) and gave her a noodle. Then 5 mins later some brisk woman snatched it off her, tutting the while, and took it to the other side of the pool to fuss over her DS, who wasn't the least bit interested in it.

I definitely think 'this belongs to...' is the way forward.

lucykate · 05/08/2008 14:30

we've got our names written all over ours in black marker, and other people still swim off with them assuming they belong to the pool. and yes, people do get funny when i politely ask for them back.

FranSanDisco · 05/08/2008 14:30

Mrs Sprat, have had this alot on holiday as well. Best one was dd's goggles. Nasty little brat kept tugging them off her face (dd was 4 yo) saying she wanted them. When I explained they were XXX's she screwed up her nose and wailed "daddy I want them". He looked at me so I repeated they were XXX's and he said "darling she won't share". End of. I did lots of mental swearing (as in my head not out loud).

gastronaught · 05/08/2008 14:50

Oh Fran, 'she wont share' I would have shared a few choice words with him. cheeky bugger. I label everything that goes into the pool, its the only way to go.

greenlawn · 05/08/2008 17:50

"She won't share .." - fantastic. Tempting to climb in the back of their car for a lift and invite yourself back to their home for a slap-up meal, wonder how they'd like that ...

misdee · 05/08/2008 17:56

i am so glad i am not the only one that gets annoyed by this.

we recently spent some time down at the local river. dd1 had been catching shrimp-type creatures in a bucket. she went off to the loo's and next thing i know some kid had just emptied her bucket out, and went off with dd1 net and bucket. i had to chase after her and ask for it back. the looks i got from the parents was terrible.

we also had a net go missing, and spotted a boy with it, my sister asked him if he had picked it up near us and his mum said 'oh its his' his dad, fortunatly honest, said 'no its not he just picked it up from near you'

arrrrrrrrrrrgh

hifi · 05/08/2008 17:56

whats all this about sharing with EVERONE.dd shares with who she is playing with not all and sundry.

misdee · 05/08/2008 17:56

oh and these were older kids, not toddlers.

TenaciousG · 05/08/2008 18:38

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kittywise · 05/08/2008 18:45

DD3(4) was having a few 1to1 swimming lessons at a public pool, to get her out of armbands. The teacher had brought all sort of stuff with her to help get dd's confidence and encourage to chase after things in the water.

There have been a number of occassions when preschoolers have come up and taken stuff and when told they can't have it have gone crying to their mothers who then come over and ask to have it. When they are told no the looks they give. Bloody spoilt madams the lot.
I feel like saying 'well I have paid £x for this half and hour lesson, if you would like to use some of the teaching equipment that I have paid for then you must pay for a share of the lessons as well'

I always label stuff in pools/public places. ALWAYS

I'm very at some of the situations posted on here, it's shocking how crap some people are

cornsilk · 05/08/2008 22:45

We were in a local park recently and a little girl walking with her family picked up ds2's ball and went off with it. Ds2 ran after them and said very politely, 'Excuse me, that's my ball.' The parents glared at him and the little girl huffed about having to give it back. So rude. I would never let my chn play with someone else's stuff in those circumstances.

littleducks · 05/08/2008 22:55

I always thought the noodle things were belonged to pools as they looked so bulky to carry, like those MAHOOSIVE floats they have but i wouldnt take one unless it was on the side, in the box of floats etc.

I saw them outside poundland today, from now on maybe youy should just say "i have heard they sell them in poundland, YOU SHOULD GET ONE"

WendyWeber · 05/08/2008 22:55

DS2 (who is 15) lost a very distinctive football (a present from DH when he went on a trip to Belgium) recently when a friend kicked it onto a pub roof.

A couple of weeks later they were in the park when DS2 saw 2 smallish boys (7 or 8) playing with his ball; he approached them & they said they live in the pub & the ball had come off their roof. He asked if they would give him the ball back when they'd finished playing and they did.

Their mother then stormed up to DS2, said the ball had been given to them by their grandfather, snatched it back & threatened him with violence. DS2 & friends followed them back to the pub, & then the woman's husband came out & threatened him again, so he left (lucky not to be thumped, probably )

What is the matter with these people?

Loriycs · 13/08/2008 19:57

OMG cocolepew what did you do? What it her own rubber ring, not that its excusible if it wasnt,i just cant beleive some people!

Loriycs · 13/08/2008 20:08

Ive had the opposite reaction. When on holiday a few years ago when my son was about 18mths, he picked up another childs bucket. He didnt go off with it just stood swishing it in the water next to them.The mother got unessecarily narked by it and asked if she could have it back as it belonged to her dd (who wasnt the least bit bothered) I prized it away from ds who naturally threw a toddler tantrum. He was just a baby really and would have been bored with it soon enough. i think its selfish possesive mothers who breed the selfish possesive children. Ive never minded when young children play with my little ones toys in similar circumstances.i think its quite an english thing to be possesive. When my son touched toys on the beach belonging to spanish children, i apologised, as you do. and the spanish were never fazed by it.

ChukkyPig · 13/08/2008 20:12

This is bizarre. Whenever I read MN I realise I have to brace myself for a lot of randomness when she gets older.

So if someone she doesn't know comes and takes her stuff and goes off with it, that's not stealing, it's sharing. Unbelievable.

On that basis can I insist that Ninewest "share" their stuff with me?

MrsGuyOfGisbourne · 13/08/2008 20:14

We mark everything in indelible black marker, but the children do share with children who ask nicely, or with toddlers etc who are little and don't understand.

ThatBigGermanPrison · 13/08/2008 20:22

On holiday last week, a bloke asked me for "that spade" as we were leaving the beach. And when I said "Sorry, it's ours", he flew into a temper, exclaiming that it couldn't be ours, as I only have 2 children and was carrying three spades, and would it hurt to share?

I had to icily inform him that I had brought it with us and he was NOT having it.

Felt like pointing out that he had evidently not been sharing the pies, but that would be the pot calling the kettle black, so I didn't.

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