To ask my DH to keep his mother away from me, just for a week or so.

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...or am I being a stroppy cow

I am 39 weeks + 3 days pregnant. Not sleeping well, having loads of painful brackon hicks, dealing with energetic nursing toddler and need to do so much around the house before the baby arrives.

We went to see the inlaws at the weekend, as arranged a few weeks ago and I made a real effort to be cheery and pleasant, when all I wanted to be was home with my DD and DH.

My MIL told me that she will be visiting me, as I have nothing to do !!! I tried to put her off politely but she doesn't listen to what anyone else says.

I just am not up to having her in my house at the moment, critising my housework and telling me tales of how she had a perfectly clean house and climbed mountains during her labour, whilst at the same time being a SAHM, WAHM and a WOHM (which is quite an achievement )

Should I bother my DH to put her off until after the new baby is here ? Or should I grin and bear her visits and hope my blood pressure doesn't go through the roof

She isn't a bad MIL, just a very tactless person who can't believe that other people can ever have a different opinion to her. i.e. If she thinks something is a good idea, then it is !!!

NO YANBU. But having said that my mil was due to arrive for 2 days tomorrow (I'm 34 weeks pg) and I was incredibly depressed about it but then she cancelled. I was so relieved I cannot describe it in words.
Entertaing anyone this late in pg is an absolute nightmare in my opinion.
If you can - SAY NO - think of your baby, it needs you to be relaxed, just put the baby first.
There are so many people like this in that generation, just bull like and marching around doing whatever they want! It is so unpleasant. They have to learn boundaries because they've got no idea of them themselves. Shame. I hope I don't get less sensitive as I age...

I'm cross with your DH. He needs to back you up at a time like this. You are his priority, not his bloody mother.

Tell her that you and your DH will be shagging like monkeys all week to induce labour, and that if she lets herself in she is likely to find you and her darling son going at it on the sofa.

Seriously, YANBU. Tell your DH that as the pregnant woman, you are Number One Priority and he has to tell her to back off.

I take it dh will be at work when she pokes her nose in visits? Tell him that if he wants his bloody mother to visit he can bloody well stay home and entertain her.

Am still really cross on your behalf this morning

DH said it was nice of his mum to want to see our DD when it suits her this week, so I suggested that he take our DD down at the weekend to see his mum instead...didn't get an answer just a mumble LOL.

No phone call from MIL yet . I have just been doing 10 minutes of housework, followed by 20 minutes sitting down drinking water until my BH stop hurting. They are very painful if I move around and stop when I rest, so I know they are only BH.

Found the kitchen and most of the living room (except the hoovering), that's it for today. Hopefully DD will nap today (pretty please) and I aim to nap at the same time or at least lie down and do nothing for a while.

Oooh how exciting about lots of BH

You should start a thread so we can all cluck annoyingly round you and ask you if it's started yet [girn]

I have had up to 6 hours of BH every 10 minutes or so, then it goes off.

My sister reckon this baby will arrive 2 weeks late on DD's birthday (20th August) As that is the kind of thing I would do I'm not too sure if that is a compliment or not from my dear sis.

God I hope for your sake you aren't hanging on until then BH like that for the next two weeks you could probably live without I reckon

Lucy said this morning that you are having a girl and you will call it Jessica.

She has been asking about how the baby got in your tummy and how it's going to come out... so thanks for that

YANBU

BE, my MIL is very forceful. The only thing that works is being very sharp with her, my own Mum was at me one day when I gave her short shrift! But afterwards, SIL and I had to explain to my Mum that if you don't answer MIL back with as good as she gives, you just end up being bossed around!
BE, show your dh this thread. Everyone here feels that your MIL is being unreasonable and as her son, it is his job to deal with her. You shouldn't have to, any more than he should have to deal with your Mum if he had similar issues. And in your condition, it is particularly unfair of him to let you deal with such a forceful person.

YANBU. Can you pretend to be in labour?
It might be a long labour-about two and a half weeks (good luck, btw)

Good news, she rang this evening and DH explained that I had help from my parents this week and we didn't want to take up her valuable time. She is happy and not visiting