Deep breath. Am trying to be calm.
When my sister and I were growing up, we'd spend every holiday at my gran's. This was mainly because my parents had no money and my gran lived in a nice place by the sea (abroad). We always had a fab time.
Now that I am an adult, my Mum wants me and DH and DS to spend a similar amount of time at her home. I.e. she takes the view that we should spend part of every holiday at her house (she has now moved to the same nice foreign place by the sea as my granny lives).
My DH announced very early on that this was not part of his life plan, that we work hard and earn decent money and in return for that he wants to go off and do different things each holiday, not always be at my Mum's. I totally agree.
Last night: complete showdown. Mum accused me of not caring about family, of being selfish, etc etc. when I said that we will be going to hers for a week in the summer each year and that's it (by the way she has an open invitation to come here anytime she likes). She said she felt insulted because it is her home and I never show any enthusiasm for going there (which is true).
The truth is, any more than a few days with my Mum does my head in but being at her house always seems to magnify it.
So - straw poll: (1) Am I being unreasonable? Selfish? (2) How often do you spend holidays at your parents?