Who should win battle of the babysitter?

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JuneBugJen · 02/08/2008 17:46

Help!
DH has had an unexpected invite to wedding of long lost friend (once very close) for this weekend.

I arranged ages ago to have my 2 best friends up to mine to have a mammoth girlie day and night out, complete with pedicures, vino and dancing at a cheesy 80's nightclub.

One of these friends has had fertility probs and miscarried last year. Her DH is now chronically ill and she seems very low.

It was really hard to arrange the weekend with the girls due to 2 lots of babysitters needed and coming from 80miles away etc.

Tried to get a babysitter for all sat and sat night but can't.

So...does a girlie night trump a wedding?

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Roboshua · 02/08/2008 18:08

Girlie night definitely. I think to cancel it would upset most people and the first booked engagement should take precedence.

If your DH has only just become reaqainted with this friend they should understand. You don't expalin why invite is so late. It suggests to me wedding has had number of drop outs and they're just trying to make up numbers rather than having been first choice. I know you said it was along lost friend but had they made any attempts to track DH down when they were organising the wedding or was it just a chance meeting.

Anna8888 · 02/08/2008 18:08

It's not about girlie night vs. wedding. It's about who made an arrangement first and will let others down at the last minute by cancelling.

Tough shit for your DH.

squeaver · 02/08/2008 18:10

Yes - you made the arrangement first. end of story

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JuneBugJen · 02/08/2008 18:14

Ta chaps. I didn't want to be a cow to DH as you could tell he really wanted to go.

Think I was starting to think along lines of you can have a girlie night in a month or so but a wedding is a one off... even if he was B-list!

Will go and break news to DH. Will cushion the blow by buying a grim sci-fi film for him to watch and a brochure for Dominos!

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kslatts · 02/08/2008 19:12

Were you all invited to the wedding (inc dcs), if you were could your dh take the dcs with him. Or could he go to the wedding for a couple of hours while you and your friends get ready and he could come back in time for you to go to the nightclub.

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