to accuse my DH of being unsupportive

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I had first day of potty training today. It didn't go well but I didn't really expect it to.

However DH came home and announced he had arranged to take DS out for the day with his dad tomorrow. I said he couldn't as it was day 2 of potty training. He didn't see the big deal and would put a nappy on him for the day. he got really angry and said I was being selfish and unreasonable and he was only trying to do something nice for me. Then refused to speak but did phone his dad to cancel the trip in a huff, said his dad was really upset etc etc .

I realise there are people with real problems and that this is a trivial tiff (he's normally a great dad and husband) but aaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrrrggggggggghhhhhhhh. I would just like him to say, well done on the PT, is there anything I can do to help?

Am I being unreasonable? Have I got this potty training out of proportion?

Another vote for the day out - good practice for Dad with potty training too. Life's way too short to worry. What I wouldn't give for a day off that wasn't when I was working 9hrs a day.

They didn't go in the end - not because I wouldn't allow it but because DH got so drunk on a night out with his mates on Friday night that he couldn't get up in the morning and lay in bed wimpering til midday.

Fil went anyway and (despite us driving 100 miles to see him last weekend) didn't call in to see us as it was 7 miles out of his way!

Potty training went well though and DS can now manage potty in the house although still wets himself when we are out and about.

but thank you for all your advice, I do tend to stress about such things but I am a girl who likes things to go to plan (this is not a helpful trait in a mother I realise)

good luck with th rest of the potty training!

btw i have kept dd in pants for a week with pretty good results (one wee accident after two days dry together, she isnt really pooing though to avoid toilet) sil started same day but is using pull ups when out, but had a day out last week where she told her dd to use the pull ups as a nappy in the car, which meant she was back to square one and it was like the first day all over again