To let my 5 year old climb on his play house in his pants, washing it with a baby wipe?

[ThatBigGermanPrison]

It's about 4.5 foot tall.

Ex P says it is dangerous and he will break his neck, and what's the point in him even coming to visit when he obviously gets no say?

I say I can't watch him 24/7 (exp maintains, for the record, that I can and should) and he will climb there the second my back is turned, and it's not up to ex p to challenge the rules in my house.

What do you say?

ds1 has been climbing on his playhouse roof for years (he's 9 now) hasn't fallen off yet.

Washing the wendy house or the pants or his legs.. and anyway, what's that got to do with safety? Surely you're worried about him falling off & breaking neck??

Anyway, depends on child, imo. Most would be safe enough at that height at that age.

Well, his legs weren't mentioned in the op, and his pants would be 'washing them with a babywipe, so it's his playhouse he has to be washing with a babywipe

But I'm not concerned he will hurt himself.

well done to him for wanting to clean it

Ok, still not sure if IABU....

Night shift?

My dd (also aged 5) is always climbing on top of her playhouse (and the fence/wall/posts etc) and i do shout her down because i'm frightened that she will hurt herself. It is around 6/7ft high though ...

Its hard to say whether or not YABU though without knowing your child.

YANBU

Sounds like good, healthy childish fun to me.

Can't bear hearing parents always telling their dcs to 'stop it' 'get down' or 'get off' every 2 minutes.

Mildly dangerous play like this is healthy imo, dd was a 'climber', and today she raced up the climbing wall at an event we visited. Made me proud, and glad I let her climb on trees and walls as a younger child.

I'd like to add that it is fairly obvious why he IS an exp...he sounds charming!!!

Is playhouse on grass? If it is over a pit of snakes or maybe concrete could be issue, but honestly???

bluenosesaint, x posts, I do think 6 or 7 foot is more dangerous.

yanbu.i regulary sit on playhouse in pants cleaning it with baby wipes.nowt wrong with that

Can you come and do mine?

no im wiping down the trees tomorrow.

He has pissed me off increasingly over the course of the evening, snapping snarling and lolling about my house while I try to get on. he can't cope with ds1 at the moment - honestly, I'm struggling with him myself, but I have roasted ds1 lately for the way he speaks to me - and it's just like exp speaks to people when he's pissed off.

Seriously considering lowering the level of contact, maybe to four times a week.

Do you have to see so much of him, can't he just pick ds up at the door?

But that would involve taking them out, he doesn't do that. he doesn't take them to his place - there's nowhere for them to be, it's a cupboard in a shared flat that has no living room. The most he does without me forcing him is take them to the park once a week. He turns up every day though, and in itself it's good for the children/

If he wants to be in sole charge of your children he should take them out.
Could he go to a relative's house for dinner, like his mother's?

Is he stricter than you in other ways?
If it's this one thing it's not a huge issue, but if it is symptomatic of a bigger problem with differing parenting styles you probably should try to discuss it with him.

Aagh, sounds like a nightmare...do you go out when he is there?

well our playhouse is on stilts and i can't stop youngest from tightrope walking around balcony nude, (despite many efforts to get her to put pants on lol).
as long as he's safe who realy cares??? are children not allowed to be children these days??? remember when you were young????

we had one of those on stilts-very high for tightrope walking!we chopped off legs a while ago so that it was safer for the 2 year old.