sometimes as do many of you i assume we have periods where our family finances are really stretched unfortunately this is one of those times- summer holidays,growing children and birthdays all stretch our budget.
now i dont need budgeting advice or financial help but am i unreasonable in suggesting that if im cutting back on my spending and budgeting carefully that my dh should cut back on stuff too?
the exmple i give is - dh for many yers longed to play the trumpet so he bought one with my encouragement he messed about with it for a year or so then i found an instructor where he had a weekly lesson THEN he bought a more expensive yet beautiful trumpet and has continued his lessons (they arent v expensive but its money imo that should be directed in to the family pot whilst we are budgeting carefully~),meanwhile he cancelled with my agreement ds2 guitar lesson in school (the tutor wasnt v reliable) but has since said at the moment we cant afford for ds to have lessons and now we are feeling the pinch i said in the midst of a small argument that he was rather selfish continuing his lesson- unfortunately this is one time hes actually listened to me and hes now cancelled his lesson and im feeling guilty - am i unreasonable??