Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Am I being unreasonable in feeling people should respect me enough to allow me to sleep

37 replies

busymum1 · 30/07/2008 08:05

Long moany one Sorry!!!! I went to bed at 10.30pm which I feel is a fairly reasonable time at 12.22am my mobile is ringing I ignored it as was still half asleep but woke my ds2 up who is a notoriously bad sleeper an hour later at 1.30am he fell back asleep turns out call was from my friend - she has mental health issues so was trying to let me know I did not need to phone her at 7.15 as normal to make sure she is up for work as she was staying at her friends house for the week. I can see her prespective was I did not need to as her friend would wake her but she could have told me this morning when I phoned that she did not need me to do this again till monday or phoned me at an earlier time of night because sure she did not arrange to go there after midnight. I get back to sleep at 2am and my phone starts again at 04.36am (again wakes ds2 another hour awake!)is a parent I childmind for, she has got to go somewhere at 10am and can't take her children with her can I have them for her, I appreciate is serious where she has to go and she can not miss going but she could have phoned me at 8am also wednesdays is my day off so chances are I would have no children so would not have to worry about ratios and arranging things to be able to do this.
Promptly at 7am the builders round the corner started their machines so end of sleep for the night as ds2 awake again as is dd1

OP posts:
ihatebikerides · 30/07/2008 11:43

Come on, busymum. Tell us, what on earth did you say to her? Were you nice and "Of course you didn't wake me" or normal and "WTF? You want me to WHAT????"

TotalChaos · 30/07/2008 14:38

Tell her that any phonecall to request childcare made to you prior to 7.30 a.m. will mean you automatically refuse.

elmoandella · 30/07/2008 14:47

is this a wind up??
surely no one would call their childminder at 4.30am!?

busymum1 · 30/07/2008 17:49

have had very stern words with mother and explained was completely unacceptable behaviour turns out she was panicking over a personal issue and honestly thought it was 7.30am her alarm clock was obviously knocked in the night as she was up and dressed before she saw her downstairs clocks said 5am not 8am she was worried that I would not be able to have her ds and that if she phoned me I may be out all day as I was not working and she knew it was my day off I have told her I understand error this time but if happens again I may have to consider terminating her contract.

OP posts:
chelsygirl · 30/07/2008 22:19

good for you

lululemonrefuser · 30/07/2008 22:22

"she was panicking over a personal issue "

So she was in a complete state (you said yourself earlier that it was something serious), disturbed you by accident (hopefully has apologised) and you have threatened to cease caring for her child?!

You had a bad night, but it wasn't entirely her fault. Cut the poor woman some slack.

chelsygirl · 31/07/2008 09:01

so lulu you'd be ok with your boss calling at 4.30?

margoandjerry · 31/07/2008 09:40

lululemonrefuser, I would refuse to continue working for someone who woke me at 4.30 through personal ineptitude and thoughtlessness. Unless they absolutely grovelled when they realised their mistake and sent me a huge bunch of flowers and it doesn't sound like that happened.

Not sure why the OP is getting a hard time over this.

Oblomov · 31/07/2008 09:50

Disagree with lulu - cut her some slack ??? You what ????
Glad to hear Op said stern things. Was starting to worry, that not only is she too nice, but more seriously, a total dormat. but glad to see she told mum off.
Hooray.

Janos · 31/07/2008 11:26

Bloody hell YA so NBU.

I would be FURIOUS with anyone who called me at that time unless it was an emergency.

Can't seriously believe ANYONE is making excuses for the stupid woman who called at 4.30am.

Why on earth are people having a go at the OP?

lululemonrefuser · 31/07/2008 13:58

So, none of you have ever made a mistake which inconvenienced someone else?

FWIW, I have had calls at terrible hours of night/inconvenient times. My husband's boss called for a conference call at 2am while I was in labour. But you know what? I got over it.

Shit happens. Sure, in the OP's position I would be cross at the time, but is it really worth expending this much fury and energy on now? Let it go ...

I'm constantly amazed on this site by how angry folks are ...

margoandjerry · 31/07/2008 14:58

lulu you seem a little angry actually, at how angry people are...

The OP was only asking for a little sympathy and she got it from me and from others. Like Oblomov I thought the OP was in danger of being walked all over so I'm happy to be outraged on her behalf (but don't worry, I'm not losing any sleep over it) and am glad that she gave the woman a stern talking to.

I have made mistakes which have inconvenienced others but they are always followed by an pology - if I had made a mistake like this I would be grovelling and mortified.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page