to not want to buy a card for every event or anniversary ...?

[beanieb]

Someone has just told me I should be buying family members anniversary cards. Thing is, in my small family we really don't have a history of this kind of behaviour. I will buy wedding cards, I will buy birthday cards, hell I will even buy a congratulations on your baby being born cards but do I have to send other members of my family a card to congratulate them on being together for a year or 2 or 3 and on and on?

Am I being mean and uncaring?

i dont and its amazing how much money you save.and think of the trees!sometimes dc make cards but i dont hardly buy any anymore

YANBU, I don't. I'd buyan anniversary card for 25 years or similar, but not annually.

Who says you 'should' - a member of your family who has not received one?

oh no - I don't think my family would give a toss. It's people I work with. I guess it's just a different way of doing things.

You are perfectly normal imo

I have never recieved anniversary card, neither have i send them, (except for 25 years etc). I've never thought anything of it. I doubt you family do either, I wouldn't worry.

Who gives a hoot about how long someone's been married? I have enough trouble remembering birthdays.

If it was a big anniversary like a silver or diamond then yes, but not every year - I think the greetings cards industry takes enough of our money!

We missed our second wedding anniversary, only realised that we had when we received a card from my parents

I really put little store on cards except for children.

YANBU
this is a cause of argument for me every year at anniversary and valentines day.

Hee hee

No way. IMO an anniversary is between the couple in question (no matter how much they bang on about it ), not anyone else. I always find it a bit odd that my housemate and her siblings buy their parents wedding anniversary presents - I don't really know when my parents' wedding anniversary is!

ok - I feel less guilty now. Maybe I should just accept that my work mates are the odd ones and I am perfectly normal!

I agree Anglepoise. Anniversaries are to do with the couple, not anyone else.

Unless the couple in question are having a party, e.g. for a silver or golden wedding anniversary, when as a guest you might be expected to get a card or a present.

It is thank you cards I hate. Someone sends you something and you then have to go and buy a blinkin card, write it and post it.

If men really ruled the world, there would be no such thing as cards, and it would be a better place for it.

I have one particular work mate who buys cards for everyone for everything! She also tells me how many cards she gets for everything (even sympathy cards), by this I mean she will come to work and say 'I had 57 birthday cards/Sympathy cards, that's 10 more than last year'

Now she has had a couple of bereavments in the last few weeks and of course because I work closely with her I did buy her a sympathy card both times, But I wouldn't buy her and her husband an anniversary one even though I know if I were married she would get me one EVERY year. Then I wouldn't buy my close family one either.

Of course if it were a 'special' anniversary or a baby then I would buy a card, but only for my closest friends and relatives.

I have been astonished to get anniversary cards each year from DH's entire family. I never even knew such things existed.

I hate birthday cards from people who are there to celebrate - surely they should be to let people further away know you are thinking of them? I hate fathers' day cards, mothers' day cards, valentine's cards etc...

My family send anniversary cards, but my husband's family only send anniversary cards to my MIL/FIL. So we send them one every year, but never get any sent to us!

i love sending cards! Will send one for any occasion. A lot of my family and close friends have moved all over and i like to remind them that i still think of them and love them!

And plus i love receiving them back! Makes me feel special!

The reason I hate recieving cards is it makes me feel guilty for not sending them! Those of you who always send them, are you hurt when others forget/don't bother?

No not really - but have been known to throw a strop and dp when he forgets! Tears have rolled! {grin}

I don't remember my DH ever giving me a card of any description. He probably did back in the early days though.

I was annoyed one year when we were living abroad and he forgot about Christmas

I think it shows that an effort has been made! Love it when my boys make me big cards with glitter etc!

Funny at xmas in our office because there s always people coming in from different depots, so i keep a few spare in my bag and write them in the loo! Everyones always saying how nice i am! He eehehe

Anniversary cards for other people? Nope! Anniversary cards for dp? When we remember .

My dad has turned into a bit of a card pain in recent years. We actually had a huge row after father's day because my dcs didn't send him a card. They give one to their own dad and I sent one (and an enormous box of chocs!) to my dad but he was absolutely furious that he didn't get one from the grandchildren... He's 86 so I expect the odd eccentricity but that came right out of left field!